Guest Book Archive


Name:

Rose Dixon

Email:

rdrosedixon@aol.com

Date:

Sunday January 01, 2006 14:26:47 GMT

Comments:

I am a birth mother. My son was born in 1965 and I loved and cared for him for 4 weeks. He was taken from me when he was 4 weeks old by the catholic church and placed with a couple for adption. I had no say in this matter and was devastated. 39 years later my son found me via the internet and we have had the most wonderful reunion. We are both amazed at the intensity of love that we feel for one another. I am now 40 years later trying to come to terms with the pain inflicted on my by so called 'good' people.

Name:

Cindy Wells/Truckle

Email:

cindy_65_2004@hotmail.com

Date:

Wednesday December 07, 2005 04:45:37 GMT

Comments:

Im a Natural mom to John Cory Truckle from Toronto Ontario ...I have been searching since 1995 and have gotten Nowhere fast..My son was born October 21 1985 and Taken (Not Relinguished) in 1986 at 17 months old..After going to court to fight the c.a.s. to get my son back, the worker told me he'd be a crown ward til hes 18 and I could get him back at that time...Hes now 20...I dont know how to search Archives and stuff so its hard finding what you dont know...I cant wait til the 18 months is done with and I can move on to find my son that Ive wanted to hold all his life and wasnt considered worthy enough to do so...
Thank you for this site well done!!!!! Cindy In Lindsay Ontario since 2001....

Name:

Christine

Email:

JCBrehm@msn.com

Date:

Tuesday December 06, 2005 11:10:19 GMT

Comments:

I am a 32 year old birth mother who, just days ago, was reunited with my 13 year old daughter. Her life seems to be mimicing mine at her age. It is through her amazing adoptive parents that this reunion was possible. This is all so new and there are many unanswered questions (for all of us) I am hoping some one reunited with a minor child will read this and email me. I have scoured the internet and have found nothing regarding this very unique reunion.
Thank you,
Christine

Name:

Tammy

Email:

tmtbry@aol.com

Date:

Tuesday December 06, 2005 04:16:26 GMT

Comments:

I did not know that what i have felyt for 19 years was so common.They said I would be fine with time, but I wasn't. I never will be, but at least I am not crazy for feeling this even now. Thank you for telling me it is okay to still hurt this much. I am not able to just forget my son.

Name:

elizabeth gellatly

Email:

egellatl@earthlink.net

Date:

Saturday November 26, 2005 17:50:06 GMT

Comments:

I am a birthmother from that time- 1968 was the year for me- and it is very validating to see pieces of my own experience in print. I have written many pages trying to articulate that experience for myself and others. thank you!

Name:

Sayu

Email:

sfifkr@hotmail.com

Date:

Friday November 25, 2005 18:01:59 GMT

Comments:

Sorry :(

Name:

loretta ramsey

Email:

indianadreamer@sbcglobal.net

Date:

Saturday November 12, 2005 13:22:19 GMT

Comments:

I have read the guess book and wish everyone best luck in finding there child.god bless!!! im also a bmother looking for a babygirl,erha ann ramsey name at birth.born9-16-86

Name:

FRANCYNE

Email:

PEPSIBBW@AOL.COM

Date:

Sunday November 06, 2005 19:59:14 GMT

Comments:

Iam BM looking for my son born 10/29/1969 in Onieda NY and adoption was done though Binghamtion Catholic Charities.I have been searching for 5years and nothing.Your birthname was Steven Micheal.I was 14 at the time and was not given a choice.I love you very much

Name:

Karen Sconyers

Email:

sgeorge19@msn.com

Date:

Tuesday September 27, 2005 02:57:02 GMT

Comments:

A month ago, I found my true family. I want very much to help my true Mom to let go of the pain and hurt she has carried for 52 years. How can help her?

Dawn/Karen

Name:

eric

Email:

ericdewitt78@yahoo.com

Date:

Tuesday July 05, 2005 10:02:00 GMT

Comments:

my girlfriend says we must put our baby up for adooption when it is born. we broke up. she has 2 others she's abanndonned. i hate this. i wannt the baby, nobody thiinks we can keep it annnd raiise it healthy. sorry my keyboard is crap. ii need gods help. help me to save my son god! he is ann iinnocent victim.

Name:

Luciano Lupesi Boni

Email:

Engelhart710@yahoo.it

Date:

Tuesday June 28, 2005 13:53:33 GMT

Comments:

My name is Luciano Lupesi Boni. I am born on 08 th March 1940 at the old San Giovanni Hospital in Rome called “Le Celate”. It was exclusively for women who wanted to remain anonymous, some times giving birth with their faces completely covered. "Le Celate" or (women who have decided to conceal their faces for their own personal reasons), belonged to the upper middle-class of Rome. Their pregnancies were sometimes the result of relatioships with highranking fascists or influential persons of the upper middle-class.
I am looking for my mother. I don’t know her name: I know only she is American perhaps she lives in California.
If somebody knows her or the story please help me.

Name:

LESSA BROWN

Email:

LESSATEXAS1969@COMCAST.NET

Date:

Saturday June 04, 2005 23:22:39 GMT

Comments:

My name is Lessa, I found your e-mail posted that you are searching for adoption information. I am writing to tell you about my experience in searching for my birthmother. I have always known that I was adopted, and yearned to know where I came from. After years of searching myself and only coming to dead ends, I contacted www.givenright.com , and they have changed my life. They were very compassionate and helpful gathering all of my information. I was really surprised how quickly they found my birthmother, they made the first contact with her to break the ice. Amazingly enough, she had been looking for me too. We were reunited two years ago and have created quite a relationship since. I have decided to share my experienced with www.givenright.com because I could not have done it with out them, and am forever grateful You can also reach them at 253-839-3666

Name:

Debbie

Email:

debbie1@madison.co.za

Date:

Tuesday May 10, 2005 09:43:45 GMT

Comments:

There is VERY little help of counsellor in South Africa and websites like yours are most helpful.

Name:

Loujean Stauffer Miller

Email:

jeannie@awesomenet.net

Date:

Sunday May 08, 2005 22:53:16 GMT

Comments:

Female adoptee DOB May 31, 1958 ISO Siblings & my Bomother who was born sometime in 1930. She may have lived in Oklahoma at one time. SHe had 2 other children born in 1949-50 & 1952-53 who were taken away by a member of her family. She may have been sick or somehow incapable of caring for them. She was divorced from older children's father and remarried to a man who may have worked for the railroad when I was born in 1958 but they were seperated by interfering family members. If any of this sounds familiar please contact me as I have more info.

Name:

Ann Marie (Barrett) Nicholas

Email:

Ann3943@aol.com

Date:

Wednesday April 27, 2005 00:06:07 GMT

Comments:

thank you for expressing all that I went through when I had to give up my son.Its something or someone I can never forget, no matter what my family says, or believes.

Name:

Jesse Jordan

Email:

jessemjordan@comcast.net

Date:

Tuesday April 26, 2005 21:28:09 GMT

Comments:

Thank you so much for your work. I have been looking for my daughter for 45 years (without much luck). It is recent research like yours that had helped me understand my periodic bouts of depression and patterns of behavior were set when I was pregnant at 16. The most obvious is a kind of passivity with life, just accepting what IS - even the unacceptable - because there is nothing I can do to make anything different. Hopefully, younger women will read and learn about the effects of giving up a child - get some counseling so they don't waste as much of their lives as I have still trying to just "forget about it", "move on with my life", "the baby is better off", "you did the right thing". You described a hole in one's soul. What a perfect description.
Thank you again, Judy.

Name:

jennifer

Email:

givenright@msn.com

Date:

Thursday March 31, 2005 08:25:23 GMT

Comments:

Hello, I am e-mailing you to tell you about our adoption forum. We invite you to join us.

We are interested in hearing your views on adoption.

http://givenright.com/forum/index.php

The Givenright Team

Name:

karen

Email:

KN197L@hotmail.com

Date:

Sunday February 13, 2005 16:36:34 GMT

Comments:

I recently have been contacted by my daughter born 1965, I was surprised at all of the feelings that re-surfaced when this happened(and none were good). On reading your articles I realize that I am not alone with this. Unfortunately I live in a small town with no self help group available. Anyone out there have tips on how to proceed with this reunion?

Name:

Joann Palazzolo

Email:

jpalazzolo0668@wowway.com

Date:

Saturday February 05, 2005 05:52:13 GMT

Comments:

Thank you Judy for giving my pain a voice. I loved your entire thesis and I am represented all over it. I'm a birth mother (daughter, Sept, 1970), forced to relinquish my daughter to adoption. Best wishes, Joann, Michigan

Name:

Mirah Riben

Email:

rite2me@verizon.net

Date:

Sunday January 09, 2005 20:08:19 GMT

Comments:

Anyone interested in more information, please cotnact me at:
rite2me@verizon.net

Name:

Mirah Riben

Email:

rite2me@verizon.net

Date:

Sunday January 09, 2005 20:07:11 GMT

Comments:

I wish to propose the following to all mothers and fathers involved in – touched by – adoption in their lives in any way. It is a PROPOSAL for a new group, NOT another support group or online chat or discussion group. Plenty of those already exist to serve that need. Nor is it one to replace any existing group or organization in any way, but rather one with a very clear and specific purpose. One that I envision as becoming, possibly in the future if it grows to that point, a lobbying group. I see other grass roots mothers groups, such as MADD, as a role model because they rose up to meet a need to save the lives of theirs and others’ children, and are succeeding.

Name:

Lori

Email:

xalleekatx@yahoo.com or Lori202@cox.net

Date:

Saturday November 27, 2004 02:48:18 GMT

Comments:

I am a FEMALE adoptee...BORN JUNE 10, 1961 in LOS ANGELES,CA. I was adopted in San Bernardino, CA @ 6 days old through S.Bernardino County Welfare. Recently learned through papers from agency that My BIRTHMOTHER was born in 1942 and was from WISCONSIN. If any of this is familiar to you or someone you know please contact. Would very much love to have any contact and to have the chance to know the beautiful woman
who gave me my life, My BIRTH MOTHER!!! She also has 2 beautiful grand-daughters waiting to greet her!!!

Name:

renee rutz corbin

Email:

rcorb@1013msn.com

Date:

Thursday November 25, 2004 15:59:11 GMT

Comments:

STILL LOOKING FOR CHRISOPHER SCOTT RUTZ BORN IN CLEVELAND OHIO,1970 OCT.17 AT DEPAUL SOCIET FOR UNWED MOTHERS, CLOSED ADOPTION,DO NOT KNOW IF REAL BIRTH CERT. WAS SENT TO ASHTABULA,CO.

Name:

Erika Faulkner-Wnek

Email:

Rikim28@msn.com

Date:

Monday June 21, 2004 22:50:34 GMT

Comments:

All 3 of my children were adopted. 2 by my mother and my baby by his aunt who took him and moved away. i only saw him twice and i just can't seem to get my life together. I was a heavy drug user but i am now clean, i had no idia what was going on at the time and was forced into signing papers i never read or without anyone to explain them to me. i don't know what to do i feel so empty inside and i am not sure how long i can go on living. i am just so empty

Name:

Tammy

Email:

tamziebee@hotmail.com

Date:

Friday April 23, 2004 19:36:20 GMT

Comments:

Looking for birth family. I was born July 21 1972 in Kitchener Ontario. Please contact!

Name:

Barbara Richard (Naish)

Email:

pbfordham@shaw.ca

Date:

Friday March 26, 2004 23:27:12 GMT

Comments:

I gave up my son in Dec. 1964 in Ottawa, Ontario. I was 16 and totally dominated by my mother. I received no councilling and have not been able to have a proper relationship since. I have not found my son yet and hav e not been able to get on with my life even after all these years. If he reads this please contact me - I have never stopped loving you or your father.

Name:

Shirley King

Email:

aussiegal@sbcglobal.net

Date:

Thursday March 18, 2004 02:00:54 GMT

Comments:

How would I go about finding a son I gave up in 1967 in a California state adoption?

Name:

GUY CURRY (ONEAL)

Email:

GONEIL@INSIGHTBB.COM

Date:

Wednesday February 18, 2004 21:37:52 GMT

Comments:

I AM LOOKING FOR MY SIBLINGS.AND MOTHER.CAN YOU HELP? I HAVE NAMES AND BIRTH DATES OF MY SIBLINGS.

Name:

Debra Pinner Dickinson

Email:

angellvr6@aol.com

Date:

Monday January 26, 2004 00:17:04 GMT

Comments:

When My Daughters Grandparents Forced Me To Sign The Adoption Papers I Had No Legal Counsel. I Was Young And Didn't Know What My Rights Were. Not Only Was I Lied To By Their Grandparents But So were My Daughters. But They Were Always Supposed To Be A Part Of My Life. They Told Me That If I Didn't Let Them Adopt The Girls And We Went To Court They Would Never Let Me See Them Again. They Lied Then Moved Them Out Of State To Pavo Georgia.
It Took Me Awhile To Find Out Where They Took Them To.
I Will Never Give Up trying To Find Them Never

Name:

Debra Pinner Dickinson

Email:

angellvr6@aol.com

Date:

Monday January 26, 2004 00:07:37 GMT

Comments:

I Couldn't Get Everything In My First Message. But The Last Place I Traced Them To Was The Church Of God Home For Children Which Is Now The Greatsmokeymountain Home For Children In Seviersville Tennessee. Before That They Lived In Pavo Georgia. I Got The Number To The Home And Called But They Wouldn't Tell Me Anything. I Recently E-mailed The Director There Paul Duncan Who Said That There Was Nothing He Could Do That The Girls Were Grown Now But That If He Saw Them He Would Give Them My E-mail Address.

Debra Pinner Dickinson
angellvr6@aol.com

Name:

Debra Pinner Dickinson

Email:

angellvr6@aol.com

Date:

Monday January 26, 2004 00:01:56 GMT

Comments:

I Have Been Searching For My Daughters For Many Years. My Story Is Proablly Different Than Some But Just As Painful And Heart Breaking. There Names At Birth Was Michelle Lynn Burnett 04/30/73 Stacy Ann Burnett 06/17/75 And Rebecca Lynn Burnett 09/08/76 Born At orange Memorial Hospital In Orlando Florida. Which Is Now Orlando Regional Hospital.
Their BF Was Michael Van Burnett. We Were No Longer Together Because He Was A Alcholic And Used To Beat Me. I Finally Left Him. I Was 17 1/2 When I Had My First Daughter.

Name:

Joann Angelini or Jennifer Franco

Email:

CZGirl4evr@yahoo.com

Date:

Saturday January 24, 2004 04:13:03 GMT

Comments:

Looking for son William P. Bader born 1983 in Hinesville Georgia



I had but one Christmas wish this last year (2003) and that was to help my cousin Joann find her son William "Billy" Peter Bader. My cousin Joan was been sent last year (2003) to fight for her country in Iraq but her one wish has always been to find her son Billy and tell him how much she loves him. So, Please help me reunite these two and bring a mothers sorrows and worries to an end. Thank you to any and all out there who read this.

Name:

DEBBIE RAU

Email:

rdn23spnrs@earthlink.net

Date:

Wednesday January 21, 2004 15:14:12 GMT

Comments:

I really dont know where to start,but Iam trying to find my husbands birthmom,he was adopted in michigan his adopted name is lawrence rau born in 1954 he was adopted in michigan when he was 7 months old we have been married 24 years and have 2 boys 25 & 20 we whould love to find her. his adoped parents are both deceased, he is missing so much maybe we can find her?

Name:

hazel

Email:

Steeldeaddog@aol.co

Date:

Sunday January 11, 2004 14:13:11 GMT

Comments:

Thank you for this web site it has helped me understand i am not alone .i recently made contact with my daughter and it brought back a lot of unresolved feelings.I had my daughter in 1974 and i had very little suport it was a taboo subject
im in touch with my daughter by letter you wouldnt believe how good it feels to say my daughter after all these years.I wish u all the best and thank you again

Name:

Emma Crowely

Email:

Robinsnest@webtv.net

Date:

Thursday November 27, 2003 21:32:56 GMT

Comments:

Searching for son lost to adoption. Anyone who was at Florence Crittendon home Washington,DC??????

Name:

Sheila

Email:

csstern@telusplanet.net

Date:

Friday October 10, 2003 20:28:38 GMT

Comments:

I am a birthmom, My daughter turned 23 yesterday. Happy Birthday to my "Angel". We made contact in July 2002 and every day knowing her has been a blessing. I just wish I could get over the guilt and pain that I have in my heart for not keeping her and loving her as a mom should......But the years of searching and all the pain and loss which I suffered was worth it when I saw her smile and held her close...Now if I could just find "Forgiveness" in myself......Good Luck to all of you searching....

Name:

james GOOD

Email:

JAMESGOOD1989@HOTMAIL.COM

Date:

Sunday October 05, 2003 17:56:04 GMT

Comments:

Hello,

I would like to tell you about a women that helped me find my birth mother, I had been searching for my birth mother for 17 years until I ws referred to a women named Jennifer, She helped me find my mother in less the a day..Her website http://givenright.com and her number 253-529-8383 I hope this helps you, let me know..

James

Name:

Roselodge

Email:

Roselodge@mail.com

Date:

Saturday October 04, 2003 09:10:51 GMT

Comments:

You can't stop a mother's heart. You can't end her love. The creator gave the children to us, because the creator thinks we women are better. We women only do what we can do, but we do WHATEVER we can! Mother Earth gives us all she's got, one little apple can make 4 or 5 trees! She is not chintsey! This is why the Earth and the Creator particularly like all mothers, from alligators to humans. Mother Earth and The Creator also understand a mother's grief, and how hard it is for women. Because men are knuckle heads!This is how we Dakota see it. We have lost many children to adoption. We have cried a long time!

Name:

Susan Boone

Email:

booneflores@iwon.com

Date:

Tuesday September 02, 2003 07:26:50 GMT

Comments:

In 1963, I put a beautiful baby Boy up for adoption!
I was sixteen years old and my folks made me!
A big piece of my heart was pulled out so young!
They never spoke about it again, like it never happened.
I just turned 55, last week and every day of my life I think of him. My Heart is still broken,He would be 39 almost forty.
I want to say I love you! If I never know you I love you,Kenneth Flores,birth date Sept 27,1963,Valley Medical center,San Jose CA.
Your MOM Susan BOONE(Flores) booneflores@iwon.com

Name:

Kim Kurtti

Email:

adia803@hotmail.com

Date:

Saturday August 30, 2003 01:21:27 GMT

Comments:

I am a birthmother, and i'm proud. I just wish my family would accept and support my difficult decision. My Adia Lynn was born on July 30, 2002.

Name:

Andrew Pelek......

Email:

billnichol@bill2.fsnet.co.uk

Date:

Tuesday August 26, 2003 18:29:54 GMT

Comments:

I’m a 34 year old Adoptee & in the process of tracing.

RE: thesis - I will read it properly later. However from what I gleamed it seems positively harrowing, their is not enough time or space to even begin to give vent to the storm of mental processes that have been triggered by this event.

RE: birth mother search - I was woken up very early to just what it must have done to my mother and I feel that the system has let her down and thus let me down I am very anxious to know about my mothers well being. It pains me to say it but from the little I’ve found out it is conceiveable that she might be suffering in the manner you describe.

Personal message: - 'Nitsa' You are the most important person in the world to me, and you always have been! I’ll find you soon I promise!

Name:

Brenda

Email:

ajzbaby6598@yahoo.com

Date:

Wednesday July 16, 2003 00:37:44 GMT

Comments:

I just gave my son up for adoption on July 11th 2003. His birthday is the 9th, 2003. I am lucky enough to be in an extremly open adoption that includes some visiting, lots of phone calls, letters, and emails. Still it does not make it easier, if anything, it is harder because I know where he is, who he is with, and still I know that I cannot have him. The birth parents even gave him the middle name of Brendan (named after me, my name is Brenda). They live so close to me, and I thank god for bringing tem to me to give my son what he deserves and I couldn't give him at this time in my life. If anyone wants to talk to me, e mail me!

Name:

Ruth Katz Erlich

Email:

ruthmda@yahoo.com

Date:

Thursday July 10, 2003 14:22:48 GMT

Comments:

I, too, gave up my son in Florida in 1964. It was a private adoption though a physician. I was 23 at the time. My life, although I have gone on and had married and divorced, I will for the rest of my life wonder where he is, if he is well and how he feels about my giving him up. My two girls know about their brother and want to find him, but I don't want to cause him any pain. Some days are better than others, today is not a good day. God bless you if you have found your child. I can only hope that he will try to find me. My love for him has never changed, with all my heart I think of him every day.

Name:

Mary

Email:

MLFAY@aol.com

Date:

Tuesday July 01, 2003 02:33:15 GMT

Comments:

I am a reunited birthmom, 7 yrs! It was awesome at the start, but awkward now. Knowing him, the son I lost, is so painful and yet wonderful. I wish I'd had better support during the early years of reunion, maybe things would be better now. I don't know if the pain ever goes away. Bittersweet is the only way to describe it. I try to focus on my other children and grandchildren and pray. I want to connect with other birthmothers in my area, especially the older ones who are still in hiding. Getting the truth of who we are and what we've been through out in the open helps. Secrets and shame can kill us slowly!

Name:

Amy Walthall

Email:

amyjamy@hotmail.com

Date:

Sunday June 29, 2003 18:03:37 GMT

Comments:

Being a birthmother who gave up my child at the age of 16, I live with much grief of the unknown of what happened to my child. It has been 22 years since I gave up my child and I have still not been able to hold or see my child. I'm hoping that someday I will heal and have the reunion with my birth son.
Amy

Name:

Kathryn

Email:

KaKallas@aol.com

Date:

Saturday June 28, 2003 19:06:08 GMT

Comments:

My mother put her baby up for adoption when she was seventeen,shes now fifty-two. they told her it was a boy she told them she would not sign the papers until she got to hold her baby.when she went to take off the dieper they took him from her. She often wonders if it was really a girl.He was born in Salt Lake,Utah area, May 22 or 23,about 1969? they went through the LDS church. when I found out I had a brother out there some where i might never know I instantly felt like I had lost something.I want to find him but how would i start if i don't even know his name? My mom (his birth mom)name when she had him was Patricia Lynn Woods.her last name is now Kallas. If anyone could help me by any information on how to start,phone numbers,people to talk to anything please e-mail me at KaKallas@aol.com. Its been really hard for my mom not Knowing how hes been,if you are out ther we love you
Kathryn

Name:

Kim Warner

Email:

KutnUpKim@aol.com

Date:

Friday June 27, 2003 04:24:34 GMT

Comments:

I have watched my mom suffer for years. As I read this my heart broke for her.... she is the birthmother of a son (my brother) born on Christmas Day in Richmond,Va (196?) Birthname: Colbert Wayne ? I wish I could find and relieve her soul of the pain it has been tormentd with all these years Wherever you are WE LOVE YOU

Name:

Genelda Cornelison

Email:

gsc756@msn.com

Date:

Sunday May 18, 2003 03:27:43 GMT

Comments:

My son was born Dec 1964, I gave him up for adoption because at the time I had no way of providing for him and me and my family was told that was the best thing to do since I already had a daughter born in 1962. I still can not forgive myself for what I did. It was wrong for me but perhaps it works for some.

Name:

karissa Elizabeth Ann Lowell

Email:

karissaAnneLowell@hotmail.com

Date:

Tuesday May 13, 2003 22:29:25 GMT

Comments:

This is so true. Adoption and Reliquishing your child for adoption has serious side-effects. I suffer from both. I am an adult adoptee and birth"mother". I suffer from AdultAdoptee Syndrome.

Name:

Pamela A. Lowman

Email:

Navalph@yahoo.com

Date:

Sunday April 20, 2003 20:43:37 GMT

Comments:

This study is very interesting.....maybe it can help birthmothers..

Name:

Lauri Greis

Email:

laurigreis757@hotmail.com

Date:

Thursday March 27, 2003 16:49:17 GMT

Comments:

I am a 49 year-old adoptee who would like to thank my birthmother for giving me a wonderful life. From what was told to me about her situation, adoption was the most rational solution to her-and therefore my-dilemma. I have not pursued a search because I have no desire to interfere with a dear woman who may not have told her present family about her past. Remember, things were different back in 1953! In any event, I hope this message brings comfort to her and to the many others who are uncertain about their choice.

Name:

Wendy Bradshaw

Email:

wendysangels@msn.com

Date:

Tuesday March 18, 2003 21:59:20 GMT

Comments:

I had a daughter in the summer of 1967. I blocked out that time of my life because of all the pain and hurt. Thats why the month is foggy and the day of the birth is some where in my head but can't bring it to the surface. This was in Tacoma Washington at Tacoma General Hospital. The horrible treatment that the hospital gave me was not suitable for any person. I want to find my daughter so bad but where do I start? The only reason I know that I had a dauthter was because the doctor's office by mistake sent my parents the bill, which was to be sent to the adoption parents. Please give me some advise as where to start. Thanks a heart that needs to be healed, Wendy Bradshaw

Name:

Kathy

Email:

krosati@columbus.rr.com

Date:

Tuesday March 18, 2003 16:41:27 GMT

Comments:

I'm discovering so many tremendous sites for firstmoms. They have inspired me to begin again to search for my firstborn son. His birthday is 12/21/66. He was born at Good Samaritan Hospital in Cincinnati Ohio. I was living at St. Joseph's Infant & Maternity Home at the time. His adoption was arranged through the Catholic Social Services in Columbus Ohio. I named him Michael William. There is a huge void in my heart.

Name:

Amy

Email:

amynyland83@hotmail.com

Date:

Tuesday March 11, 2003 03:38:00 GMT

Comments:

I would jsut like to say, that I think the site is amazing. My
Mom and Dad gave up a child before they were married and me along with my
2 sisters and brother, just found this out 2 years ago. I think
its great that people are finally looking at the other side of
the coin. The birthmother goes through so much.
Thank you with all of my heart.

Name:

tracy rauch

Email:

trixie1972@hotmail.com

Date:

Friday March 07, 2003 23:17:34 GMT

Comments:

I want to find my older sister,whom my mom had when whe was not married yet. Where do i start? We are from Winnipeg Manitoba Trixie1972@hotmail.com

Name:

JOY

Email:

adptivemomm@hotmail.com

Date:

Saturday March 01, 2003 06:10:34 GMT

Comments:

LOOKING FOR BIRTHMOTHER.....FEB 85 BOY..EMAIL ME THANKS.

Name:

Lisa

Email:

dumppuppet@aol.com

Date:

Thursday February 27, 2003 16:12:01 GMT

Comments:

My name is Lisa. I am 36 years old. I have been recently been blessed with my second child, a baby boy. My mother had a unusual reaction to the birth of this babyboy and I just found out yesterday why she reacted the way she did.... she gave up a baby boy when she was just 16 years old and he was 4 months old. My heart broke for her. She has kept this secret locked up inside for so long. While we were talking about what happened she told me that not a day goes by that she does not think of him. He would be 52 years old now. How do I start to look for him? Where do I begin? Could anyone help me mend this wonderful womans heart and give her some peace?

Name:

Kim

Email:

127dan@bellsouth.net

Date:

Tuesday February 25, 2003 15:14:44 GMT

Comments:

My husband is an adoptee and was born in Memphis, TN on 12/7/1965.
We have his birthmother's name and even know where she lives; however,
because of a contact veto my husband had to sign, we can not contact her.
We have to wait on the state of Tennessee to do it. Who knows
how long that may be? We've already paid the state of Tennessee a great deal of money.
My husband's birth name was Steven Frassrand. This site was very informative.

Name:

Rhonda

Email:

hooch_74701@yahoo.com

Date:

Tuesday February 11, 2003 22:01:13 GMT

Comments:

I am an adoptee and a birthmother. I've been looking for my bmom for two years. This site has great meaning for me since I'm on both sides. I was born in Tulsa, OK on 01/04/1973 my birthname was Anna Marie. Thanks!!

Name:

Kathy Lord Rouse

Email:

floridapeaches1000@yahoo.com

Date:

Sunday February 02, 2003 13:14:36 GMT

Comments:

Looking for birth son.Born 7-14-81 in Jacksonville,Fl. at
Universty Hosp.Brother also searching for you. My son is
flipino american, hazel eyes. Was adopted by a adoption laywer who has other adopted children of all races and
nations. Hope you are searching for us. We have loved and missed you all these years. All answers taken with God's
love and understanding. Thanks
you all these years.

Name:

Sherry

Email:

mills2@integris-health.com

Date:

Friday January 24, 2003 15:57:37 GMT

Comments:

I came across this research project while surfing the net for research articals regarding relinquishment. I needed five (5) articals for a paper I'm writing for school. I too am a birthmother.

Name:

karyn

Email:

karyn_62@yahoo.com

Date:

Tuesday January 14, 2003 22:49:17 GMT

Comments:

hi my name is karyn and I have been searching for many years for my husbands birth parents. Iam begining to wonder if anyone is looking for him i have been on every adoption web page and ancestor and genology page there has to be something or someone out there his name is mark his adoption papers say his birth name was michael john Dumas born march 29th 1960 at st. mary's hosp for unwed mothers in syracuse N.Y. in onadaga county there he was given to catholic charities in ogdensburg N.Y. then adopted to a nice family in watertown N.Y. both adopted parents are deceased. he has brown hair brown eyes 5ft 11in thank you any info would be greatly appreciated

Name:

Wendy Cirinelli (birth name was...CATHERINE MARY POWER

Email:

Searayinnj@aol.com

Date:

Tuesday December 31, 2002 01:52:49 GMT

Comments:

I was born OCTOBER 30th 1967 in ST.JOHN's NEWFOUNDLAND CANADA..my name was Catherine MARY POWER...My BIRTH MOTHER WAS BORN IN 1941, (99%sure) I was left with catholic orphans and adopted at the age of 7months, I was taken to NEW JERSEY and raised by LOVING "parents" I have had a great life, they gave me the sky, I just have that same feeling ALL ADOPTED people have...A feeling of "missing something" I need to know who I AM, WHO I LOOK LIKE? I dont need to start a relationship, if it is NOT WELCOME,..Just need to feel complete! ANYONE OUT THERE CAN HELP ME! :)
THANK you, GOD BLESS...

Name:

Wendy Annette Hurt Thomas Hollon

Email:

Pictureframequeen@yahoo.com

Date:

Sunday December 22, 2002 23:11:03 GMT

Comments:

My daughter Tina Michele Louise Hurt was taken from me in Gallatin TN in 1984 by a social worker by the name of Penny Porter. There was a big misunderstanding. She would be 21 years of age. Her birthday is December 19, 1981. I would love to meet her and let her know that I have been looking for her ever since she has been gone. Every time I would pass a lille girl with blonde hair and blue eyes I would turn and look back. I miss her so much and would like to tell her all the heart aches I have had looking for her I love her very much!

Name:

slwtfe

Email:

slwtfe@msn.com

Date:

Monday November 18, 2002 20:38:44 GMT

Comments:

Born July 25, 1965 In? Birth mother went through Big Sisters league of Los Angeles, CA, Adopted parents went through another adoption agency. Mother left me at hospital. Desert Springs Hospital. Please contact me if you have any info on situation. Love to find out about each other. Oh yea! I favor my birth Dad by the info I have. That's if you wanted to know!!!

Name:

Thomas Edward Miller

Email:

thomasedmiller@yahoo.com

Date:

Thursday November 14, 2002 19:59:32 GMT

Comments:

Agency: Onondaga County Department of Social Services
Searcher Name Thomas Edward Miller Searcher Position Adoptee Adoptee Information :Birth Name Thomas Edward Miller Adopted Name Guillermo Eduardo Fulqueri
Date of Birth 08161965 Birth Location Syracuse, NY USA
Adoption Location Syracuse, NY USA Birth Mother Information
Name Unknow Miller (Miller)Age Relinquished 18 Date of Birth 1947 Birth Father Information Age Relinquished 17
Date of Birth 1948 Searcher Comments Addl Comments: Health History of Birth Mother: Age:18; Height: 5'3"; Weight: 110 lbs; Hair color: dark brown; Eye color: brown; Occupation: Studen/Office work; Education: 12.

Name:

barbara mason

Email:

chrguf658@aol.com

Date:

Friday November 01, 2002 00:25:12 GMT

Comments:

i need help tring to fine birth son for 14years his birth name ronald wayne mason dob 2-22-1973 in st. louis mo. at the old depaul hospital.any info please e-mail me chrguf658@aol.com

Name:

Veronica Krueger

Email:

Bomma1214@aol.com

Date:

Thursday October 31, 2002 02:13:11 GMT

Comments:

I am an adoptee and a birthmother.

Name:

Ray Buffer

Email:

raybuffer@socal.rr.com

Date:

Tuesday October 29, 2002 08:13:48 GMT

Comments:

Your research has broadened my perspective of the obstacles encountered by birthmothers. My relinquishment happened in 1969. Thanks for your work.

My Site is at http://adoptee.cjb.net

Name:

Vida Jean - From downunder Australia

Email:

milcent.lister@bigpond.com.au

Date:

Tuesday October 22, 2002 12:51:58 GMT

Comments:

Hello!
It never ceases to amaze me just how universally the pain of natural mothers is the same - we are the forgotten mothers deemed to be evil and unloving - how sad those on the otherside lack the courage to understand and respect the times and difficulties each and every natural mother endured - I was overcome with shock when I realised my thoughts and feelings were no different to others who no matter what country they come from felt - At times I felt as if someone out there was reading my thoughts - but it was someone reading my thoughts but a far bigger picture of young women children themselves having to make or be made hand over their child for adoption - No respect of love was or for that matter still not been given to us mothers - We are mothers forever, however we are the forgotten mothers - and it is so sad -

Name:

Sandy Budy Michel

Email:

snap@arkansas.net

Date:

Wednesday October 02, 2002 19:55:57 GMT

Comments:

This site is the best tool I've come across in a long time for understanding what birthmothers go through. Thank you, Judy, from the bottom of my heart.
I gave up my bi-racial son in 1970 in Salt Lake City Utah. He was born December 18, 1969. May have been adopted into Nevada. Where are you now?

Name:

GEORGINA M. MACDONALD

Email:

GINAMAE234@CS.COM

Date:

Tuesday August 20, 2002 09:31:07 GMT

Comments:

MY DAUGHTER FOUND ME 3 YRS AGO - SHE FOUND OUT WHAT SHE WANTED TO KNOW AN NO LONGER WISHES TO SEE/TALK TO ME. PAIN - HURT - ANGER ARE ALL THERE. I LOVE HER BUT TO BE HONEST DO NOT LIKE HER. AM I THE ONLY ONE THIS HAS HAPPENED TO?

Name:

Terri Boulton

Email:

valpakmh@monarch.net

Date:

Monday August 12, 2002 02:49:57 GMT

Comments:

My daughters are looking for their "birth grandparents". Their father was adopted as a baby. He was born in the General Hospital in Calgary, Oct. 10/63 with his first two given names "Micheal Terry". I believe his birthmother was 16 years old at the time. His name is now Paul Alexander Barkauskas. I would like to retrieve medical history information from his birthparents, and my one daughter, who looks very much like her father, would like to meet her grandparents. The two girls would very much like to have an opportunity to meet one or both of their "birth grandparents". Please help if you can. Thank you.
Terri Boulton

Name:

Judianne

Email:

djudianne@yahoo.com

Date:

Friday July 19, 2002 00:23:41 GMT

Comments:

Hi, I am a birthmother and I believe that my daughter may have found me - she sounds like me - we share the same allergies to meds and bees - and she even looks like me and my other daughters ... we hope to have a face to face in less than a month... wish me luck and I will return -
A birth mother's pain is always there and stays with us until we find and then it is still there as we find we missed so much of their lives ....

Name:

Kadee

Email:

kadeeisme@netscape.net

Date:

Thursday July 18, 2002 12:39:29 GMT

Comments:

Birthmothers, PLEASE overcome any guilt or anything you may feel. I am an adoptee who was reunited on Dec. 21, 2001. I was able to get my records open due to having MS and found her, We spoke for the first time on that date--12-21-01, She PASSED AWAY JAN 10,2002! We had 3 weeks to tell each other how we loved and missed each other. I wanted a hug more then anything but we lived in different states and planned a face to face in summer. PLEASE DO NOT WAIT- There are lots of adoptees that hold no grudges, we just want your love now, especially if we were adopted to abusive homes. I wish she had known how to search or that I would have overcome my fear of abandonment and searched also so we had more time. each day that goes by is one less you'll be reunited. GO FOR IT-- YOUR KIDS ARE WAITING!!

Name:

MB

Email:

mb72269@yahoo.com

Date:

Thursday July 18, 2002 01:48:09 GMT

Comments:

I am an adoptee who found your site. I recently found my birthmother and we connected via email. I don't know what or if anything will become of it. I can accept whatever will happen - I am just so happy that my bmom had the courage to tell me she was my birthmom, send me some important medical and share a picture. I'd so much like to meet her one day and perhaps become friends...but I can accept it if she chooses not to want to do this. Thanks for the research on birthmothers. I have read many books on adoptees but there was not as much literature about birthmothers. Society has no idea about the truth of adoption for the birthmothers/fathers, adoptees, or adoptive parents. I had no idea myself about the truth and believed things that I was told that were not truth. Thank you Judy and everyone else out there for letting the truth shine through.

Name:

Amy

Email:

aeast@mhtc.net

Date:

Wednesday July 10, 2002 16:46:09 GMT

Comments:

Thank you Judy!! Your courage to pursue and share is precious.
Reading this thesis has provided me with much more information than can generally be found out there and helps me put a face and feelings to the "situations" that I deal with every day.
I am a social worker who does searches and also adoptions. This information was invaluable to me to help me understand what women went through and are still dealing with. I agree that secrecy and degredation are not meant to accompany motherhood or life for and adoptee. I support searching and open adoptions.
May God Bless and comfort each of you - birthmothers and adoptees alike.
Amy

Name:

Lela B

Email:

barneylela@earthlink.net

Date:

Thursday July 04, 2002 00:19:39 GMT

Comments:

I am the presistent daughter in law! Nothing in my life brings me more happiness than seeing my husband and his mother hug that first time and the smiles they both have on there faces in all the pictures! We are living the Dream and it is great! More family more love! Life is grand!
Lela

Name:

jan hanson-beardslee

Email:

janbeardslee@hotmail.com

Date:

Wednesday July 03, 2002 14:44:08 GMT

Comments:

I have been reunited with my son after 35 years thanks to the persistence of my new daughter-in-law. I never realized I had the option of reaching out to find him until recently. I now have grandchildren and my two 'younger' sons have found an older brother. I will read your book with delight.

Name:

Diane

Email:

Buggs1947@aol.com

Date:

Wednesday July 03, 2002 06:17:13 GMT

Comments:

I have not completely read Judy's message but know that I have been looking for my son, born 12/9/65, St. Lukes Hospital, Boise, Idaho, a private adoption arranged by Dr. Franklin David, for many years. The records of this adoption are lost, hidden, whatever and no one seems to be able or willing to help. I have always suffered alone, but realize now that I have not been alone, just in the dark by myself. Hope that prayers and with some good luck, will be reunited with my son, who is with me everyday of my life.

Name:

Robin

Email:

rcamp1003@aol.com

Date:

Saturday June 29, 2002 10:53:12 GMT

Comments:

My partner is an adoptee, and we have been considering adoption. Something deep inside of me called to the pain of the birthmother. I just had this feeling that no one was talking about the overwhelming loss. I couldn't see how someone could carry a child, and give them up with ease. I don't want to contribute to this pain. We were thinking about international adoption, and I had this concern that these women were being coerced into giving away their children. I know there are many open adoptions now, what is the state of things now?

Name:

Sarah Jordan

Email:

erzuliep@hotmail.com

Date:

Sunday May 12, 2002 23:03:30 GMT

Comments:

As a bm, I've heard a lot about how bad protection for bms was in the 60s, and how much better it is today. This is flatly not true. Despite all the "protections" supposedly available, I was denied counseling, and not informed of the nature of the documents I was signing. I was continually assured I was at no risk of losing my daughter, and I would eventually see the wisdom of adoption. Yet I had to sign 'medical documents' right after the birth and have not been able to get her back. She will be a year old this week, and I have yet to see court. I am 24, married and in college. I had a lot of concerns about myself as a mother, which I was advised were not normal, but reasons to give her up. I think this is kidnapping, and am appalled at the lack of resources for bms, or the possibilities of recourse in a case like mine. For the last year, my life has been a wzalking nightmare.

Name:

Judy

Email:

judyelizaj@yahoo.com

Date:

Thursday April 25, 2002 22:28:35 GMT

Comments:

I applaud your courage to tackle such a research project. It was most therapeutic for you I am sure. As a birthmother, I appreciate the voices of those who answered you questionaire. The hole left by relinquishment is never filled is it, even in the best of reunions. This is the burden we birthmothers take to the grave of never being able to fill the hole or not feel the pain of loss. Thank you for doing this study.

Name:

Kathy C.

Email:

k1@slc.com

Date:

Sunday April 21, 2002 21:19:29 GMT

Comments:

For over twenty years I've grieved the loss of my only child, my son, who was lost to adoption in 1978. Trying to get some help and support has been a nightmare. Thank you, for the information in "Birthmother Research Project."

Name:

Susan Bethea

Email:

sue65wife87mom95@msn.com

Date:

Wednesday April 10, 2002 10:01:43 GMT

Comments:

I am a recent birthmom of a five month old girl. I have started a community in MSN for open adoption birthmoms to give support to each other both past and present.
It is http://communities.msn.com/OpenAdoptionBirthmoms.

Name:

Moira Kathleen (Kathie) Crouch

Email:

sakijin@isponline.net

Date:

Tuesday April 09, 2002 21:13:24 GMT

Comments:

Thank you for posting "BIRTHMOTHER RESEARCH PROJECT". As a birthmother who gave up her daughter four days after her birth in 1966 and who has not yet found her child, I am still dealing with the pain and anguish that has not lessened.

Name:

cathy

Email:

mommy5army@aol.com

Date:

Tuesday April 09, 2002 19:07:09 GMT

Comments:

i found 2 children and it was not a good thing..while i was ready they were not..their adoptions were to abusive homes..the very thing i was trying to save them from

Name:

Karen Cayford

Email:

bilsfarm@snohomish.net

Date:

Sunday April 07, 2002 05:33:42 GMT

Comments:

I, too, "accidentally" found your Birthmother Research Project while desperately trying to find some support out there. I gave up my son in 1985; I was 26 at the time; the birthfather was black/married; I was white/single. I lived in Texas. I felt my child would suffer not having 2 parents. And that was the line I was fed. Now I am full of rage, anger at my parents, the maternity home counselor, the whole adoption system. Thank you for your immense courage in undertaking this project. Without my Lord, I would not be alive today.

Name:

Darlene

Email:

fantasticevents@hotmail.com

Date:

Sunday March 31, 2002 07:51:00 GMT

Comments:

I "accidentially" found this site and it is amazing to me that after 7 years since my reunion with my son, I see how I'm still so affected by the relinquishment. I am prepared to do further healing and I'm ever so thankful that I found this site and look forward to joining a support group of birthmothers. Thank you for your work.

Name:

leanna

Email:

babee85@hormail.com

Date:

Wednesday March 27, 2002 18:13:48 GMT

Comments:

iso birth parents born march 25,1970 in Vancouver bc

Name:

Dorine Akey (Maxwell)

Email:

dorineakey@cogeco.ca

Date:

Monday March 25, 2002 20:55:04 GMT

Comments:

My name is Dorine and I am looking for my daughter
(birth name) Jodi Lee Maxwell, born April 27, 1984 in Picton Ontario, Canada.
Also looking for son (birth name) Jonathon Eric Maxwell, born May 26, 1985 in Belleville, Ontario.

You have two brothers Brandon 13 and Jordon 9 who really want to meet you, We miss both of you dearly and pray that you are well and happy.

Love your Mom

Name:

TODD COMER

Email:

tcomer@rene-us.com

Date:

Saturday March 16, 2002 18:06:14 GMT

Comments:

I am looking for my birth mother. I was born in wilmington north carolina on 8-18-71. Mom if you are out there and you read this please touch base with me. I am not looking for anything from you just what is missing from this hole that has eaten away at me for years. I know I have at least one sister out there to so please contact me.

Name:

Donna

Email:

snarfyy@hotmail.com

Date:

Monday March 11, 2002 18:23:02 GMT

Comments:

I am searching for my birth mother. I was born in fairfax, virginia on july 15, 1965. "this stirring article brought
stirring memories of something I don't have"

Name:

Kathie Ann Kniffin

Email:

kassie@cshor.com

Date:

Saturday March 02, 2002 20:38:28 GMT

Comments:

I am loking 4 my sister. Robin Frances D.O.B. 6 June 66. You were adopted either Oct 66 or Nov 66. Out of New London conn.you were a very sick baby and there was 5 of us at home. She misses u terribly and she is sick. I hope u reach us soon. We all love u sis.

Name:

barbara Schaefer

Email:

barbschaefer3@hotmail.com

Date:

Saturday February 23, 2002 21:51:37 GMT

Comments:

Search for birthmother of my son, born 29 Apr 1965 at the Martha Washington in Milwaukee (Wauwatosa-Cedar St) WI. Son anxious to know geneology and medical.

Name:

Teresa A. Sheppard Curtis

Email:

Taccur4@aol.com

Date:

Tuesday February 05, 2002 20:48:00 GMT

Comments:

I am a birthmother having given birth to a girl, 9/20/1965, St. Joseph Hospital, Pierce County, Tacoma, Washington. I had not stopped to think that I was not the only one woman in extreme pain for so many years. Your project has enlightened me to why I've always felt disfunctional and not deserving of many things. I am trying to understand myself, but it is difficult with the hole in my soul and in my heart and my pain. I am starting my search for my daughter now. Thank you for sharing.

Name:

kelly

Email:

jb4445115@cs.com

Date:

Monday January 28, 2002 03:35:11 GMT

Comments:

hi have just started communicating with my birhthmother. i am 45 years old.. i am trying so hard to help her understand that she is not a bad person for doing what she was told to do... she has such guilt feelings... i would love to talk to birth mothers that might be able to shed some light on this for me..

Name:

Sheila Ann

Email:

sheilaj41@yahoo.com

Date:

Saturday January 05, 2002 21:41:09 GMT

Comments:

Judy thank you so much for this wonderful site. I am a birthmother who for the last three years has been reunited with my beautiful daughter. She was coerced from me when I was sent to a Florence Crittenton Home in Terre Haute, Indiana. If anyone from the FCH in the year of 1961 is still around I would love to talk to them. Even under such dire circumstances we did form many friendships and shared so many dreams of finding a way to keep our child with us. But back then we didn't have a chance having no idea what our rights were or that we even had any. I thank God every day that He blessed me with my birthdaughter twice in my life. God Bless All of You, Sheila Ann

Name:

Sloan Bland

Email:

szipone@BellSouth.net

Date:

Tuesday September 25, 2001 05:30:36 GMT

Comments:

I found the son I gave up for adoption last year after 33 years of looking. He was born in 1967. I got no counseling, just lies and more lies. Everything was fine for awhile and now I have no contact with him at all and don't have a clue as to why. He and his adopted family just withdrew! And I and my family are left wondering why?

Name:

Brenda

Email:

rome828_2000@yahoo.com

Date:

Wednesday April 11, 2001 01:35:54 GMT

Comments:

Thank you for starting this site, it is awful how much it hurts to give up your child...I did 23 yrs ago. It was by far the hardest thing i have EVER had to do. But God is good, i have reconciled with him 4 days ago. He wants to meet me, maybe this summer! Thank you, Brenda

Name:

Mary S

Email:

merrymarymary@yahoo.com

Date:

Thursday December 27, 2001 21:01:32 GMT

Comments:

I just viewed a few pieces of Kelly's artwork, Shattered Reality and Grief......reminds me of artwork my firstborn had painted, which I saw at her memorial service. She took a gun and ended her life. I had felt such a strong desire to take down my own walls of defences and to let her really know me as a person, but I waited too long and now my opportunity is lost forever, and so is her opportunity for peace. My daughter's artwork depicted featureless faces, and a sillouette with a heart bleeding down her body and never ending. I'm still trying to write to her mom, and express my sympathy for their loss. I am so grateful for the love and care they provided her, and so disappointed that even after 20 years, I still didn't have myself together enough to not be ashamed to let her know me intimately. I am glad this site is here to help us all understand our personal traumas.


Name:

Diane Kiper

Email:

rkiper@idir.net

Date:

Wednesday November 28, 2001 18:25:44 GMT

Comments:

I am making copies of your thesis for every member of my family to read! I want every member of my extended family to read it because it so clearly and poignantly validates my sister's trauma and pain since her baby's adoption in 1969. Thank you.


Name:

Tina

Email:

cody@san.rr.com

Date:

Wednesday October 31, 2001 16:45:41 GMT

Comments:

I too am a birthmother of a daughter born April 18, 1972. She recently found me and we have been getting to know each other and your research project was really good for me to read to understand that instead of being all alone trying to sort out all my anger, my fears and my pain, I really have lots of others that share my unique kind of pain. Thank you for taking the time to first of all do this project and secondly to share it with everyone. Sincerely, Tina Firks


Name:

Meg Braun

Email:

smbraun1@juno.com

Date:

Monday October 29, 2001 14:50:46 GMT

Comments:

Mom, where are you? I was born July 1, 1965 at Willows Maternity Hospital in KCMO. I don't want to say too much about my adoption but it has been very difficult. My adoptive mother is an alcholic and has frankly caused a lot of problems in my life. I am trying to heal. I guess I'm hoping that finding you might help.


Name:

Kathy

Email:

sunset977@aol.com

Date:

Thursday October 04, 2001 14:35:34 GMT

Comments:

My birthmother is closing in on 70. I have been looking
for her for 20 years and have wanted to find her since I was
much younger. Her maiden name is Betty Lou Davis and she was
22 in 1953 and from South Carolina. If you know someone who
answers this description, ask her if the name Kathy and the
date 9/26/53 mean anything to her.


Name:

Catherine Houdek

Email:

houdec02@yahoo.com

Date:

Wednesday October 03, 2001 20:34:58 GMT

Comments:

I have an open adoption and have visited my son several times. The only thing I carry stashed deeep in my soul is the grief and I've become numb. Any suggestions how to deal with the grief personally without going to counseling?


Name:

Sloan Bland

Email:

szipone@BellSouth.net

Date:

Tuesday September 25, 2001 05:30:36 GMT

Comments:

I found the son I gave up for adoption last year after 33 years of looking. He was born in 1967. I got no counseling, just lies and more lies. Everything was fine for awhile and now I have no contact with him at all and don't have a clue as to why. He and his adopted family just withdrew! And I and my family are left wondering why?


Name:

Sandra Willis

Email:

SANDRAWILLIS59@HOTMAIL.COM

Date:

Sunday September 16, 2001 22:16:29 GMT

Comments:

I am looking for other birthmothers in my position. I had a child with very severe birth defects. I could not care for her the way she needed and I had to relinquish her. I have always known where she was and we have had contact though not for a few years now. She is 22 now. I really need to talk to someone in the same situation. Her foster parents could not love her any more if she was their child by birth, and mostly it has been a good thing for her. But I am so hurting inside. I really need to talk to someone who understands first hand and may be able to help me. The pain and guilt have not decreased over the years, in fact they have increased. When I talk about her I am upset for days afterward sometimes. It is a very complex situation and I will be so thankful if anyone can give me some advise.
Thank you, Sandra


Name:

Rosemary

Email:

rojelly@pipeline.com.au

Date:

Tuesday September 11, 2001 14:13:34 GMT

Comments:

A most beneficial thesis...gratitude and congratulations.
Also, would anyone have or know of any other resources,
articles or sites that refer to the relinquishment of
Down Syndrome and/or intellectually disabled infants?
'much appreciated


Name:

STEVE COLLETTE

Email:

shazcats@mindspring.com

Date:

Sunday September 09, 2001 15:18:44 GMT

Comments:

ISO MARTHA JOANE WARNICK (maiden name). She was born in BONAPARTE, IOWA. I know she lived in Sioux City, Iowa in 1953. I was born CARL WAYNE WARNICK on Nov. 3, 1953 at 5:30 pm in St. Joseph hosp. (now called Mercy hosp.) Any help in my search would be very greatfull.


Name:

Elizabeth L, McLean

Email:

catt@trivergent.net

Date:

Monday September 03, 2001 23:23:54 GMT

Comments:

Thank you so much for all the work you did with your research. It helps me to know that I am not alone and validates my feelings.


Name:

Carole Weber

Email:

carole@medicorassociates.com

Date:

Tuesday August 21, 2001 18:38:46 GMT

Comments:

Today is my first grandson's birthday. He is fourteen. I needed to say even though birthparents go through tremendous emotions, I was curious why the birth-grandparents are seldom mentioned. The parents of the teen-aged pregnant daughter are typically very young (I was 39 years old) and I have frequently searched the internet for some information for my daughter as well as myself. I am just guessing that information for the grandparents would be supportive emotionally also. Thanks for listening. Happy Birthday to Andrew with love and tears - Grandma.


Name:

Leonne Willie

Email:

johnwillie2000@home.com

Date:

Thursday August 16, 2001 00:08:04 GMT

Comments:

hi my name is Leonne Willie It was Leonne Dubeau before i got married Iam trying to fine my daughter that i gave up in Oct.13.1969 born in toronto father is east india and me french canadian iamchopeing to fine her and to let her no that she has a sister and a newphe how is 4 years old now

Leonne Willie
8 Cottingham crest.
Oshawa Ont.
l1h-8v4
1-905-404-9940


Name:

Anita Lee DeVinney formerly known as Maria Teresa Scaglione

Email:

ald@ggb-law.com

Date:

Wednesday August 08, 2001 04:34:55 GMT

Comments:

Looking for my birth mother. Her name is Maria F. Scaglione. I was born in Rome, Italy on December 6, 1960. Please help me find her. I would like to know my medical history.


Name:

Tom Kovacs

Email:

kovacspainter@aol.com

Date:

Saturday August 04, 2001 04:05:50 GMT

Comments:

I am looking for my birth parents. I was born on January 9,1969 at Community Hospital Indianapolis, Indiana. All I know is my birth mother possibly was in beauty school at the time. I was raised as an only child and would like to know if I have siblings. I am the father of 2 now and would like to know you.


Name:

Robin Geiger

Email:

scooberdoo1@hotmail.com

Date:

Thursday August 02, 2001 21:25:44 GMT

Comments:

I am a 26 yr old female looking for my birthparents. I was born in Lincoln, Nebraska on May 12, 1975. I just want to talk to them. My adoptive mother passed away in 1994 I would like to find my bmother. I have no information about the bmother or the bfather. I have 3 children now and need to find out about medical records. If anone has any information pleasse contact me.
If you are reading this, I'm not upseet I just want to meet and talk to you.
Thank you,
Robin


Name:

Rose Garcia

Email:

Rose.Garcia@state.nm.us

Date:

Monday July 30, 2001 18:03:59 GMT

Comments:

I am a birthmother who gave up my daughter for adoption in 1971. I joined ALMA (Adoptee Liberty Movement Association)the same year, and later I subscribed to PSN (People Searching Newsletter). It was through this wonderful newsletter that I was able to find my daughter, and reunited with her on her exact 18th birthday in March 28, 1989. She now has a child of her own making me a very proud grandmother. I do not see them often as we live in different states, but is always a delight to see them whenever possible. To those of you who are still searching, my advice is: NEVER, NEVER GIVE UP. Your time will come. My heart goes out to all of you as I know how hard it is to wait.


Name:

Heather

Email:

HEATHERKT@peoplepc.com

Date:

Sunday July 08, 2001 01:39:43 GMT

Comments:

Hello I am adopted I was born on 10/10/70 my natrual mother signed up with ISSR when I turned 18 and I signed up about a month ago they called me telling me there was a match. But that they needed to contact her. She hasnt responded and I really wish she would she was only 14 yrs old when she had me her first name is Jessena and she is from North Carolina but her family brought her to Florida I was born in Cape Canaveral Hospital. I have read all of the notes in the guest book and am hoping that she would read mine..

Heather


Name:

Heather

Email:

HEATHERKT@peoplepc.com

Date:

Sunday July 08, 2001 01:39:13 GMT

Comments:

Hello I am adopted I was born on 10/10/70 my natrual mother signed up with ISSR when I turned 18 and I signed up about a month ago they called me telling me there was a match. But that they needed to contact her. She hasnt responded and I really wish she would she was only 14 yrs old when she had me her first name is Jessena and she is from North Carolina but her family brought her to Florida I was born in Cape Canaveral Hospital. I have read all of the notes in the guest book and am hoping that she would read mine..

Heather


Name:

Donna Valdivia

Email:

MomDKValdivia@aol.com

Date:

Saturday June 16, 2001 05:24:58 GMT

Comments:

Unreal. It seems like we all feel the same way. What a blessing to be reunited with my birthdaughter. She was born 3 days after my 19th Birthday in April 1972. Dana now I know her name was 29 this year. I love her very much. Without the hands of God helping her and the support of her adoptive parents I'm thankful. I'm a member of the sunflower birthmother group. Very supportive group and this site is wonderful. I fit every profile as well. Thank you so much Judy. Your also a gift from God. To all the birthmothers out there, remember the words the people told us, sign and go on with your life. Well if they could see us know, reunited with our Children. I wish these people could of lived with the pain for all the years we lived. God bless all of you.


Name:

Susan Kay Huizinga

Email:

huizingas@asmecm.com

Date:

Tuesday June 12, 2001 16:14:42 GMT

Comments:

Hi, I am 31 years old and I am looking for my Birthmother, I was born at Booth hospital on 2/27/70 and I was adopted through Bethany Christian Services. I live in Grand Rapids Mi. and was born there. They say my mother had 11 brothers and sisters and lived in White Cloud, She had a little girl and had a son. I would really like to meat her.


Name:

Ann Marie

Email:

boo10009@yahoo.com

Date:

Wednesday May 09, 2001 20:00:40 GMT

Comments:

What an amazing study. Absolutely right on. I relinquished my daughter in 1976 and the situation was exactly the same. Truly a remarkable study. Thank you so very much.


Name:

Susan Oliver

Email:

sdoliver@vt.edu

Date:

Wednesday April 18, 2001 21:04:41 GMT

Comments:

My son's adoptive mother is so damned mean. She is threatened, jealous, dishonest, and manipulative. I give her respect and honor because she nurtured my baby when I couldn't. Why can't she give me respect and honor because I gave him life? I do not understand the adoptive parents' perspective and I doubt that I ever will. They were given a child to love and raise. Why can't they share a little piece?


Name:

Annie Day

Email:

cloake.day@xtra.co.nz

Date:

Monday April 16, 2001 01:39:00 GMT

Comments:

You know something? Our babies have their own life now - so if we get in contact with them... be ready to be strong, be ready to put away the pain - girls - its all part of motherhood - be ready for more sacrifice and don't hurt your grown up child -I've found my boy - he doesn't have to the depth of this pain - you know what i mean


Name:

Brenda

Email:

rome828_2000@yahoo.com

Date:

Wednesday April 11, 2001 01:35:54 GMT

Comments:

Thank you for starting this site, it is awful how much it hurts to give up your child...I did 23 yrs ago. It was by far the hardest thing i have EVER had to do. But God is good, i have reconciled with him 4 days ago. He wants to meet me, maybe this summer! Thank you, Brenda


Name:

Valerie Leighen Hopps

Email:

Leighen@virtualbc.org

Date:

Saturday April 07, 2001 23:17:45 GMT

Comments:

march 27 1970 Richmond BC female
well this special is not just for my birthparents it's for all the other birthparents out. so you had us and gave us up for adoption so why don"t you want to see what that child looks like after all these years
well maybe us would like to know the thurth about our adoption after hearing lies and the only people who know the thurth are you and i also know why won't find us cos
you mind think we would be mad no we just want answers
thank from a nother adoptee


Name:

Barbara J.kent (Walker)

Email:

vinnysplayhouse@aol.com

Date:

Friday April 06, 2001 22:41:52 GMT

Comments:

I am in search of Birth parents
They had a baby girl July 9 ,1969
Portland,Oregon St.Vincent Hospital Washington / Multnomah county
My heart is yearning to find you have so much to tell you and so much to look forward to when We meet someday
Your names are Beverly & James
Beverly was 22 when she had me and to the best of my Knowledge you were born in 1947 could be wrong please inquire if you wish..My thoughts and prayers have always had you in them..I miss you Love your Baby girl


Name:

Maureen McNamara

Email:

mcnamara.m@ghc.org

Date:

Thursday March 29, 2001 00:18:21 GMT

Comments:

I wish I could have been in this study. It is still unbeliveable,how many people do not understand the grief
and low self esteem birthmothers experience. It's so frus-
trating that the majority of people seem to think that we
will "get over it". That's an added stress to what we are
already going through.


Name:

Barbara

Email:

bjw48@msn.com

Date:

Wednesday March 28, 2001 04:04:42 GMT

Comments:

I was pleased and overwhelmed that your article struck so close to home. Memories that have been kept under wraps for more than 30 years have surfaced. I have shared them with my daughters, and am so thankful they will never have to endure such an event


Name:

Kathy Henderson

Email:

hendekm@shands.ufl.edu

Date:

Tuesday March 27, 2001 18:03:25 GMT

Comments:

I am a hurting Mom for 29 long years for a child I basically was driven to give my child up for adoption from my family because if was born of biracial, I am white and Dad is black. We both desperately want to find the child who will soon be 30 years old, this November. I cannot express the hurt we both have gone through these many years, but with only the child being able to open the sealed files in the state of Alabama, my one fear has always been, he does not know he was adopted, so how can he know to search for his birthparents? It hurts deeply that I do not know anything about him, always wondering.

Thanks for letting me express my pain on-line.

Kathy Henderson


Name:

Jacqui

Email:

occhibruni@msn.com

Date:

Friday March 23, 2001 02:12:15 GMT

Comments:

I placed my son for adoption 2 years ago and it is somewhat open. I am currently writing a paper in college on the effects of children who are placed in closed adoptions. Thank you for your website it has provided much information. It upsets me that society thinks we do no damage to a child when he is denied his place of origin. Closed adoption is truly for the adoptive parents. It is the child that suffers, as does the birthmother.


Name:

kathleen dempsey mcdemott

Email:

bingobuddy56@aol.com

Date:

Wednesday March 14, 2001 17:13:46 GMT

Comments:

looking for daughter who was born in 1/1973 at columbia hospital for women in washington dc. at time of birth elizabeth was the name i gave her. put up for adoption in baltimore in 1973. kathleen dempsey was my maiden name and lived in mt rainier md at time of birth. father's name is on not the birth cerft. put know who he is.
looking for you with love to give to you
kathleen dempsey mcdermott
bingobuddy56@aol.com


Name:

Victoria Moore/Northam

Email:

buildsm@netins.net

Date:

Tuesday March 13, 2001 23:23:00 GMT

Comments:

I'm trying to find my daughter Birth name was Chastity DOB 7/23/70. Father last name is Greenhill.WE really want to find you please get touch right away. I've hit so many block walls and legal walls. You have a brother too,and we are hopeing you see this and know how much you are loved.


Name:

Betsi Westling`

Email:

desfab@warwick.net

Date:

Thursday February 22, 2001 19:08:13 GMT

Comments:

I have not read your thesis yet, I plan to, but I have read through your posts of birthmothers searching, and truly my heart goes out to them. I am the mother in law to an adoptee, who has been searching undauntingly for the last 14 yrs, and I really needed to hear a birthmothers perspective on this. I feel the pain, and my heart goes out to each and every one of you, I cry too, for, there is nothing in this world that I would rather do than to give my sweet daughter in law the gift of her roots, most especially her "mother's" loving arms. I will pray for all of you. My Love, Betsi ISO birthmother for daughter-in-law born May 5, 1970, Brooklyn, NY birthmother's maiden name LAMONICA


Name:

B

Email:

dspskj63@aol.com

Date:

Tuesday February 20, 2001 01:58:13 GMT

Comments:

female adoptee,DOB 8-11-66,taken by Hamilton cty.welfare dept.final adoption decree,11-28-72.I was about 5 yrs.I miss my brother,and want to say thankyou for caring for me.they all thought being taken kicking and screaming was cute.I found it to be horrifying,and etched in my mind forever.Only to find I was never coming back.od be w/all of us.Until w eet again.


Name:

Don

Email:

bristol3@hotmail.com

Date:

Saturday February 17, 2001 11:28:09 GMT

Comments:

At least birthmothers get to see the child,more than i ever got as a birtfather,allmost 40 years ago and i'm still angrey.


Name:

Leslie

Email:

Livewire277@earthlink.net

Date:

Friday February 16, 2001 15:55:07 GMT

Comments:

I am doing most of the legwork in my fiancee's search for his BIRTHMOTHER. He was born DUANE JORDAN ZIMMERMAN on 3-19-63 at COLORADO GENERAL HOSP/DENVER,COLORADO. His Birthmother is believed to have been at BOOTH SALVATION ARMY HOME. Her name is believed to be Cathy Zimmerman.

Every time we register on a website or view a guestbook, we have a hope of seeing his info posted by someone else.
It would be so comforting to know that someone is looking for him also.
After reading your thesis, it helps to bring hope that maybe his birthmother has not forgotten. Perhaps she is also searching.
It has been said "there are two sides to every story".
Thank you for letting us hear the birthmom's side of it.
I hope it will bring comfort to those adoptees who feel lost and forgotten.


Name:

Alicia F. Garcia

Email:

Alicgarcia@CS.com

Date:

Friday February 09, 2001 23:35:53 GMT

Comments:

Hi i too have been tring to find my daughter..i am registered on the birth quest site for the last 4 yrs..have yet not located her birth criteria...was informed to further the search i would need around 500.oo to get any more results;;i have been in and out of the hospital the last few yrs also ,,i just want her to know that i am here and available to have her in my life. that i have always loved her ..and would love for her to allow me to know her.. and that she has a brother... and i feel thhat she may me on a search of her own...dob...Oct.13. 1969... any further assistance you might direct me to would greatly be appreciated.. thank you for a wonderfully need outlet and servic...alice


Name:

BARBARA HANKS TREVEY

Email:

BMUFFY@AOL.COM

Date:

Wednesday February 07, 2001 02:37:10 GMT

Comments:

THIS IS A GREAT SITE.
I AM IN SEARCH OF BIRTHDAUGHTER THAT WAS BORN ON JANUARY 19,1970.IN LYNCHBURG, VIRGINIA. BORN AT LYNCHBURG GENERAL HOSPITAL,BIRTH NAME WAS REGINA KAY HANKS,ADOPTION WAS THROUGH LYNCHBURG SOCIAL SERVICES. MOTHERS MAIDEN NAME:
BARBARA ANN HANKS .BIRTHFATHER WAS KEITH (TOD) BLANKENSHIP
LETTER HAS BEEN SENT TO SOCIAL SERVICES TO RELEASE ALL INFORMATION TO YOU IN CASE YOU DECIDE TO SEARCH.PRAYING THAT YOU WILL.


Name:

Kasey

Email:

kaseydf@aol.com

Date:

Saturday February 03, 2001 02:55:36 GMT

Comments:

I have begun my search..This time I'm not giving up until I find you...You were born on May 14,1969 in Seattle, Wa. Your a great man now and I have always loved you. Waiting.


Name:

Deb Hughston

Email:

hugh1@azstarnet.com

Date:

Sunday January 28, 2001 03:27:43 GMT

Comments:

My mother gave up a baby boy in 1960 at Fresno Community Hospital
he was white, with blue eyes and blonde hair. She wants to put her name out there, she wants to let him know that if he wants to contact her, she is available. She wants to know that he is OK, and that if he has any questions about family health, talents, or even the reason she was forced to give him up she is ready to answer these.
If anyone knows how I know get this info out there for her, how I go about it, could you e-mail me?? Thank you so much. Deb Hughston


Name:

Pamela Ann Walsh

Email:

cloverangel@infoblvd.net

Date:

Sunday January 28, 2001 03:23:42 GMT

Comments:

Birthmothers and Adoptees need suport groups after they find each other. I know I have felt so left out now and confused after two months of knowing my son. Others who have never been in my shoes, say wait give it time, well enought time has been waisted, now is the time to form that relationship, so no mixed messages get in the mind of birthmother and Adoptee.

Name:

Elisa Borgatti

Email:

eborgatti@afd-inc.com

Date:

Thursday December 28, 2000 19:14:32 GMT

Comments:

Hi! I was born on 4/11/72 in the South Carolina Baptist Hospital in Columbia, SC and adopted through Catholic Charities of Charleston, SC. My birthmother was 19 years old, originally from New York, of Lithuanian heritage, blonde, blue eyes, high school grad. My birthfather was 20 years old, blonde, blue eyes, college student majoring in psychology. EITHER LAST NAME MAY BE PIKE OR PECK. Thanks!


Name:

melanie cohen

Email:

djmikegold@aol.com

Date:

Wednesday December 20, 2000 00:35:38 GMT

Comments:

hi my name is melanie cohen and my sister and i were given up at the ages 3 and 4 we were born at 8404bayparkway,brooklyn,ny and we are lookin for our older sister elizabeth cohen or our mother if anyone nows anything please e mail me at djmikegold@aol.com thank you


Name:

David L Betts

Email:

phxrenegade@qwest.net

Date:

Friday November 24, 2000 09:50:50 GMT

Comments:

Looking for bmom I was born on April 1 1969 older sister born on feb24 1968 recentily talked to her for first time we are looking for you bmom name at that time for all where david lee noble (bfather)june noble(bmom)virginia june noble(DOB 2/24/68)david lee noble jr. 4/1/69 adopted name of david lee betts also have 2 younger half brothers Rex alan/howard lee last know location of bmom was Burlington Ia. me and sister where born in Iowa City Iowa her Bmom last know name was june buckley PLEASE GET AHOLD OF US WE LOVE YOU MOM


Name:

Amy Hooper

Email:

jahooper@loganren.com

Date:

Wednesday November 22, 2000 19:41:08 GMT

Comments:

Iam recently searching for bmom.DOB4-20-70 No regrets whatever the circumstances,I truly understand.Please e-mail with any info.Peace and joy to everyone searching.


Name:

Mary Lou Boggiano-Smith

Email:

bogginva@aol.com

Date:

Friday November 10, 2000 00:14:52 GMT

Comments:

Your paper has validated my life. I gave birth to my son in 1965 and was reunited with him on his 32nd birthday. What a joy he has brought to my life! I no longer feel the tremendous loss that I did for so long.


Name:

Sharon

Email:

darwent@sympatico.ca

Date:

Monday November 06, 2000 19:03:01 GMT

Comments:

I read your paper with much interest...I too am a birth mother in search of my son...I am presently writing about the pregnancy, reliquishment and adoption related issues attached to my experiences...Thirty years later and I am still reeling from it all. I wear it well though and recognize that there are two me's that I must deal with on a regualr basis. Thank you for your insights!
Sharon


Name:

barbara adams

Email:

bca@netwurx.net

Date:

Tuesday October 31, 2000 19:30:26 GMT

Comments:

I am a birthmother who fits the profile of this study. I thought that when I gave my son up at 17 I had done the right thing and would be able to put it behind me but I was very wrong. I am fortunate enought that my son found me almost two years ago now and has been most loving and accepting of me and we are building a relationship together. I am at a poit that I need to make contact with other birthmothers so am writing this now. If there is a way that I might be able to help you or someone you know because of my backgroung please let me know. How is it that we are such a substantial group that is so deep in the shadow of the societal consciousness? Is there some way that I can, by myself or with others help someone out there make a difference in the adoption world's consciousness?


Name:

Sandra Feher

Email:

Sfeher1@excite.com

Date:

Thursday August 24, 2000 12:37:30 GMT

Comments:

I gave my son up for adoption in August 1980. I have just begun my search to see if I can find him. I am hoping that I am sucessful in my search.


Name:

Karen Berklund

Email:

KBEEBABY@AOL.COM

Date:

Sunday July 30, 2000 15:34:17 GMT

Comments:

Dear Judy
CONGRATULATIONS
I read your article about a year ago and it really has helped me deal with all the feelings I buried. I found my daughter June 15, 2000. 30 years to the day her New Family took her home. We are in the process of coming to terms with our new realationship. I do know she will be part of my future, as she was a part of my past. It's so wonderful to know that she always was told "how much I loved her and wanted her to have more....!" I thank her parents for being open with her. It made for an easy reunion. Andrea and my son Greg, hit it off so well, they're making plans to get together again soon.
Thanks for your wonderful words.
Karen B (a Sunflower reunited BMOM)


Name:

Darlene Gerow

Email:

thegerows@juno.com

Date:

Friday July 21, 2000 21:43:17 GMT

Comments:

Thank you for your work. It confirms and validates all the things that I've experienced and learned as a birthmother.


Name:

Eleanor Whitmore

Email:

eleanorw@nctimes.net

Date:

Friday July 14, 2000 04:53:10 GMT

Comments:

Your research tells the sad and tragic truth, further
proven by the fact that most of the guest book entries are
mothers searching. A society that keeps mothers from their
own children needs to be re-taken by its citizens.

I've been a birthmother for 34 years and it's truly living
hell.


Name:

Denise Connelly

Email:

mcdconn@juno.com

Date:

Saturday July 08, 2000 22:09:14 GMT

Comments:

Really touched me.Now I feel I can identify with my birthmother. Was born 7-12-62 in Baltimore, MD.Relinquishment papers signed 9-62.Placed thru Catholic Charities.Baptized St.Charles Borremo.Adoption finalized 11-21-63.Searching for birthfamily.Italian,Irish,German,English heritage.Name at birth Mary Catherine. Any info. mcdconn@juno.com


Name:

Cari Bennett

Email:

mailto:Bennrow@hotmail.com,%20Bennrow@juno.com

Date:

Thursday June 08, 2000 21:53:29 GMT

Comments:

I am a BMom ISO of my daughter. She was born April 11, 1978 at High Plains Baptist Hospital in Amarillo, TX. The doctor's name was Breeden. The Adoption Agency was Catholic Family Service. The counselor's name was Peggy Cooney. If anyone knows of her or you are her, Please contact me. I have always loved you and have had you in my thoughts and prayers for the past 22 years.
Your Loving Mom,
Cari
Bennrow@hotmail.com
Bennrow@juno.com


Name:

anna Butler-Moran

Email:

anna@dreamwarden.freeserve.co.uk

Date:

Tuesday May 30, 2000 18:37:44 GMT

Comments:

What a lovely site........the photo sums up exactly how
bmothers in closed adoption feel like. I wish that open
adoption had been a choice 18 years ago, but it was not to
be. keep the faith and good luck.

your sunflower friend in England

anna
bmother to Neil 22-12-81

{see I will not forget you I have carved you in the palm
of my hand}


Name:

sue

Email:

mikesuehitch@netzero.net

Date:

Monday May 15, 2000 14:25:29 GMT

Comments:

MISSOURI just started to look gave up daughter 11/??/1972 born in north kansas city memorial hospital. ADOPTION THROUGH SS IN LIBERTY MISSOURI.


Name:

Andrea Nellis

Email:

airheads@interlog.com

Date:

Sunday May 14, 2000 20:48:07 GMT

Comments:

Hi! I am a Birthmother living in Ontario, Canada. I am really wanting to add my info to any registration for adoptee's searching for thier birthparents. Any help with addresses or websites would be appreciated. This is the beginning of my search for my Birthdaughter. Thank you.


Name:

MARCELAS

Email:

JYWEL@AOL.COM

Date:

Tuesday May 09, 2000 17:43:08 GMT

Comments:

JUST LOOKING FOR MY BIRTHMOM


Name:

Bonnie Price

Email:

psychladybon@yahoo.com

Date:

Monday May 08, 2000 03:32:43 GMT

Comments:

This was a great source or comfort to my friend who has just begun the experience of being a "birthmother.


Name:

Jackie Perez

Email:

PerezFamily904@aol.com

Date:

Sunday May 07, 2000 13:37:07 GMT

Comments:

I to am a birthmom searching for my birth son.And i dont think the pain ever goes away, and the longing to find that part of me that is gone.My son was born in Pensacola,Florida at University Hospital on July 18,1971 at 4:28pm.his birthname Harold Donald Baker .Iwas 13 years old went i had him.I kept him til he was 2 or 3 months old .My maiden name Jackie Lorraine Brazwell.
Thank You & God Bless
Jackie


Name:

Sherri

Email:

sher@eagnet.com

Date:

Friday May 05, 2000 11:15:43 GMT

Comments:

I am a birthmother in search of my son that was born in Jacksonville, Florida on November 15, 1970 at 11:11pm in St. Vincent's Hospital. His birth weight was 7lbs. 7oz. and at birth he had white blonde hair and blue eyes. He was delivered by c-section and the attending physicians were Dr. Timothy Phelan, Dr. Allgood, and Dr. Schweitz. His adoption was arranged through the Children's Home Society, Buckner Division, Jacksonville, Florida.


Name:

Linda-R-Rocquebrune

Email:

elan33@aol.com

Date:

Thursday May 04, 2000 23:21:37 GMT

Comments:

I was named Jacqueline at birth, 4/27/53, at St Marys Hospital, Montreal, My birthmother is Scottish/Canadian, My father is said to be American and/or Austrailian, If you are my birth-mother or birthrealative I would love to hear from you! Please see my childhood photo and more details at
http://hometown.aol.com/elan33/index.html or email elan33@aol.com Thanks Judy!


Name:

Michelle

Email:

bv-cats@webtv.net

Date:

Saturday April 29, 2000 18:44:55 GMT

Comments:

Am looking for male born Sept. 08 1969 Birthname Geoffery Bafik. State of birth De. Would like to see if you are all I know you can be.


Name:

Michelle

Email:

bv-cats@webtv.net

Date:

Saturday April 29, 2000 18:40:06 GMT

Comments:

It's not everyday I think of you,but you are always in my heart.


Name:

Caroline J Olson

Email:

carolineolson@offutt.af.mil

Date:

Thursday April 27, 2000 08:50:44 GMT

Comments:

I won 123 million dollars and I need to find my original parents to share this with? Please I'm lonely and desperate to have their love once again.
sincerely crying,
CJ


Name:

teri kreitzberg

Email:

btakberg@aol.com

Date:

Friday April 21, 2000 02:25:19 GMT

Comments:

i am a birthmother (1968) and as i read your thesis i saw myself unfold like the pedal on a flower. i gasped, cried, rocked, waled, and sat dumbfounded.....i'm not alone. everything i have felt for 32 yrs has been normal , at least to 6,000,000 females......This is truly an amazing study and so well written. congratulations on your paper and more importantly on your REUNION with your SON.

GOD BLESS YOU JUDY KELLY
thank you for releasing the demons in my heart.


Name:

Jackie Sears

Email:

JackieSear@aol.com

Date:

Friday April 14, 2000 10:56:27 GMT

Comments:

Thanks so much for your brilliant thesis. I relinquished a daughter over 33 years ago and reunited with her for her 33rd. birthday. I have realized since finding her that I did experience an inability to get on with the rest of my life despite the fact that I married and had three children, achieved a postgraduate education and a successful career. I did sign a confidentiality waiver with the adoption agency. When I reunited with my daughter, I learned that she had gone to that agency 7 or 8 years ago to inquire and they told her that they didn't keep very good records in the '60's. I also was given a fake name. I returned to a world lacking in support and understanding. In a nutshell, you have painted me, and I applaud you.


Name:

P. Saint

Email:

psaint@mindspring.com

Date:

Friday April 14, 2000 09:24:13 GMT

Comments:

Searching for son adopted from Sheffield, Colbert County, AL. DOB 07/19/1965. Birth name Charles Allen Saint, adopted name is John. Feel I have depleated all areas. Thanks for your sit.


Name:

Susan Braswell

Email:

sbraswell@tallassee.rms.slb.com

Date:

Thursday April 13, 2000 13:25:51 GMT

Comments:

This is a great site. It made me cry and think of myself, I always thought i was crazy now i know what made me feel like i did, I have always looked in a little girls eyes and know young ladies thinking are you mine.I am in search of my daughter born 2/09/69 at George Washington hospital in D.C. i stayed at the Florence Crittendon home in D.C. I named her Melissa Ann Wiggins and she was adopted in ST. Marys county maryland.


Name:

carol watt

Email:

herringtonfence@msn.com

Date:

Tuesday April 04, 2000 02:05:49 GMT

Comments:

looking for my son adoptived bye brenda issac pedigo in
april 14 1980 please if you have information please contact me was indpla in at wishard or general hosp


Name:

kathryn

Email:

cupidskiss1@hotmail.com

Date:

Saturday April 01, 2000 16:00:33 GMT

Comments:

looking for daughter born feb.7 in jacksonville florida
her name is megan elizebeth last name unknown. i live in michigan, she in florida probly in jax. she has blonde hair and blue eyes. her mothers name is nancy. i just want to talk. if anyone knows any such person please e mail me. thank you.


Email:

langston@paducah.com

Date:

Friday March 31, 2000 19:07:58 GMT

Comments:

Hi Judy,

Thanks for putting your research on line. My site is http://www.evansville.net/~langston It is my belief that when women refused to give up babies the maternity homes and the courts took them and they had no recourse. If you have the time take a look at my research. this system placed children all over the nation. The newspaper articles on this site were copied word for word. Again thanks for sharing your research.


Name:

Kay Bogart

Email:

kayb@vom.com

Date:

Thursday March 02, 2000 19:10:17 GMT

Comments:

I relinquished my daughter in 1967. Thank you for recognizing and expressing the impact that single incident has always had on my life.


Name:

asearchershaven > http://home.infospace.com/ash15

Email:

fourleafclover@visto.com

Date:

Sunday February 27, 2000 23:49:19 GMT

Comments:

a sea full of thank you and tears

ash


Name:

Linda Gould

Email:

eany48@yahoo.com

Date:

Sunday February 20, 2000 10:15:53 GMT

Comments:

Judy,
I haven't read the all of the study, but the small section that I did read brought back so many painfull memories that as I read your guest registry the tears began to flow and I could not stop them. My grown children have known about their oldest sister, but not the pain I feel when I have to remember the horors of giving her up. I have never really sat down with them and shared the pain, in fact I hide my grief, not only from them but myself. It has only been in the last few weeks that I have allowed myself to grieve. Thank you.


Name:

Kevin Marie Shaughnessy

Email:

KST1997@aol.com

Date:

Tuesday February 15, 2000 00:05:57 GMT

Comments:

Wonderful study, Judy. It brought back many sad and difficult memories. My daughter and I have reunited and I am finally a whole person. I spent 26 years of living hell without her. No one understands unless they have been through this. Relinquishing my daughter almost destroyed me as a person. I am going to answer your survey. It is healing to get these feelings out in the open.


Name:

Linda Marshall

Email:

GROUPTVL@aol.com

Date:

Tuesday February 08, 2000 01:24:28 GMT

Comments:

THank-you Judy for helping me come out of the darkness so I may complete this with my son.

Linda


Name:

Deb Howbert

Email:

howbert@wcoil.com

Date:

Monday January 24, 2000 00:33:57 GMT

Comments:

I am happy to say I found my daughter, born 11/14/67
on 8/17/99.


Name:

Radell Weisen

Email:

rweisen@hotmail.com

Date:

Sunday January 23, 2000 02:54:44 GMT

Comments:

I'm a reunited birthmother who spent 43 years in grief for my son, but now I'm joyful and we're making up for our lost time. He was born/relinquished in 1956, reunited 1999.


Name:

Sharyl Brannon

Email:

Mariah678@aol.com

Date:

Tuesday January 18, 2000 02:21:49 GMT

Comments:

I read your thesis several months ago and have returned to read it again. I sobbed through several sections of it feeling the pain that I had buried so deep for so long. I relinquished my daughter on 6/6/70. I held her in my arms for the first time on 6/10/98. I agree with the many others that this thesis should be read by anyone counseling birth mothers. They truly have no idea what a trauma this experience was for us. And I have to admit that until I met my daughter I didn't realize what a trauma the experience was for me. The emotions were like the lava erupting from a volcano after my daughter was found. It was so comforting reading your thesis and realizing that I was not crazy after all. I hope that more studies are done on this subject as birth moms are reuniting at a record rate right now and we need this kind of information to help in the healing process. Peace and blessings to you.


Name:

val jean james sawyer

Email:

valandlorie@prodigy.net

Date:

Sunday January 16, 2000 04:10:55 GMT

Comments:

I have a daughter and a son out there somewhere.They were taken from me in1980
in Dallas Texas.Their names are/were KALENA DAWN SAWYER AND ELDRED LLOYD SAWYER JR..
KALENA has blue eyes blond hair,her age at this time is 23.
SHE WAS BORN IN MARCH.I will leave the date open for her to tell me...
ELDRED has dark brown are maybe black hair. ELDRED was born in APRIL. I will leave the date open also for him to tell me.



Many years have passed and I assure you both that you have a very LOVING AND CARING FAMILY who would love to find you both.
I hope that just maybe you will read this and find me.

KNOW THAT I HAVE ALWAYS LOVED YOU,

VAL JEAN JAMES SAWYER


Name:

Janet Buffington

Email:

kit3314@aol.com

Date:

Tuesday December 14, 1999 18:40:24 GMT

Comments:

I came across your site while looking for info for a friend and time stood still for me. I am now feeling the same pain that I had buried for years with drug and alcohol abuse. (Been clean 19 years). Knowing what is causing the pain does NOTHING to make it any less. I haven't reunited with my daughter, maybe I never will, but our info is available on the Net if she decides to look. Did you survey me without my knowledge? It was SO eerie seeing myself in that survey. Thank you so much for this opportunity to speak about my pain. I feel as though I was tricked out of my child because I was young and naive and had nowhere to go. Florence Crittendon in Wilmington, Delaware had a hell of a racket going there as I imagine all the other unwed mothers' homes did, too. God bless you.


Name:

Andrean

Email:

alarson@tmn.com

Date:

Thursday December 09, 1999 12:37:55 GMT

Comments:

Thank you for posting the results. As a birthmother who is searching (daughter's birth 02/04/71), I see myself in your findings and that my emotional framework is not "crazy." Every symptom I experienced from relinquishing my infant daughter is normal! Society and greed seduced me in to giving up my child, then shoved me out of the way. A hug and then a punch in the nose. I was expected to destroy my soul to fulfill the dreams of others. We were chattel, vessels, production entities. I did put my soul back together with the guidance of an excellant therapist who did some quasi-PTSS work with me and who, when I lamented never having a family, reminded me that I have a daughter. Today I look forward with great joy to meeting her again.


Name:

Michelle Westbrook

Email:

rich1@GCI.com

Date:

Tuesday November 23, 1999 15:49:45 GMT

Comments:

thank you for posting your informative survey results. This is the first site I have visited concerning these issues. I had no idea that there were other women out there who felt the things I do. You presented this information in a way which was neither insultingly sweet nor harshly detached. I think uts great.


Name:

Vicki Unger

Email:

GODSLINE@aol.com

Date:

Tuesday October 26, 1999 23:25:48 GMT

Comments:

I think you have done an absoulty beautiful thesis of birthmothers and I want to say "THANK YOU" for telling our views and your story


Name:

Mara Drew

Email:

maradrew@earthlink.net

Date:

Wednesday October 20, 1999 04:23:42 GMT

Comments:

Hi Judy! I am excited about your site and am sending it to everyone I know.

See you soon- Mara


Name:

Jamie Clark

Email:

starryeyedjc@yahoo.com

Date:

Wednesday October 20, 1999 00:40:41 GMT

Comments:

I am writing a paper for college and this site on the internet
is just wonderful. I praise you for putting together a beautiful
site. This will be a great help for my paper. I will love to hear
from anyone who wants to help me in my crusade for open
adoption rights. Everyone has a right to belong. thank you


Name:

Jean Tierney

Email:

tierneyjf@aol.com

Date:

Sunday October 17, 1999 01:42:58 GMT

Comments:

What a massive undertaking! I have just printed all of it thanks to a sunflower. I can't wait to read it all! My son was born 12-16-64 but I'm sure I fit in with all those bmoms from 1965 to 1972! Thank you so much for sharing this.


Name:

Ilona Brown

Email:

IBrown1569@aol.com

Date:

Saturday October 16, 1999 16:53:02 GMT

Comments:

wow ! did I write this? I am a birthmom of 2 sons . 1962and 1964. I am newly reunited with eldest son ,so far only by email and phone . I took care of him the 5 days i was in the hospital and we bonded . my 2nd. son I only saw at birth and then was taken from the maternity floor.but i am still incomplete. Beautifully done. thanks


Name:

Mary Lou Smith

Email:

bogginva@aol.com

Date:

Saturday October 16, 1999 03:06:48 GMT

Comments:

Thank you for that wonderful paper. It validated my life.


Name:

Penne

Email:

bwgardner@earthlink.net

Date:

Wednesday October 06, 1999 20:16:27 GMT

Comments:

Thank you Judy for doing this work. I've worked with so many therapists who have no idea about the impact relinquishment made on my life. In fact, it was not until my daughter found me, that I did begin to break through the barriers to experience my profound grief and loss. Penne


Name:

jeneugene

Email:

jeneugene@excite.com

Date:

Thursday September 30, 1999 15:13:44 GMT

Comments:

Hi Judy! I finally came to see--it's wonderful.
You have a very comprehensive site.
I appreciate the work you have done. I hope we stay in touch. jen


Name:

Theresa Ann

Email:

clips323@excite.com

Date:

Sunday September 19, 1999 09:10:22 GMT

Comments:

Dear, dear Judy,
Thank you for giving me a new perspective. I am an adoptee born in 1968, my entire life I have wondered if SHE is alright, now I know she may not be. Today is the first day of my personal search and I've been thinking Im not making the right decision, now I know I cant possibly quit. I want her to know the gift of Family she gave to me was the right thing to do. Thank you, Theresa Ann.


Name:

Linda Korrow

Email:

lqk7928@worldnet.att.net

Date:

Friday September 10, 1999 03:08:54 GMT

Comments:

Hi Judy, this is terrific, thanks for the url!
Linda


Name:

Bessie Bearden

Email:

bbearden@airmail.net

Date:

Friday September 10, 1999 01:43:46 GMT

Comments:

What a lovely job so many birth mothers need this.I didn't relinquish a child but i have been searching for my nephew for 3yrs.Today is his birthday,he is 37yrs old.I feel a void even though he isn't my son.And a deep sadness wrapes itself around my heart. My sis was only a child. she had no control over what was being done to her.Or over the fact that her son was torn away from her.How many sad stories are there out there?? They are endless< God only can bring our children home.


Name:

Laura E. Berry (DiNardi)

Email:

cruznut@worldpath.net

Date:

Tuesday September 07, 1999 09:24:17 GMT

Comments:

Stunning, every word so true. Only a birthmother could understand the feelings here. I relinquished in 1970 and found my daughter in 1997. Every member of the triad should read this.


Name:

Karen MacKay

Email:

karenmackay@yahoo.com

Date:

Monday September 06, 1999 13:49:17 GMT

Comments:

My daughter was born in February 1965 and we are so close to being reunited that after 34 years I am finally at peace. It's been a long, long journey. Your thesis shall be shared with all my family in order that they may understand me and what has driven me all my life. Thank you so very, very much.


Name:

Lori Carangelo

Email:

accesspress@earthlink.net

Date:

Sunday August 22, 1999 08:31:26 GMT

Comments:

Thank you for your fine research. I'm a birthmom, reunited with son Tom since 1987.
My books on adoption themes and other topics are at
ACCESS PRESS & AMERICANS FOR OPEN RECORDS (AmFOR), at:
http://home.earthlink.net/~accespress


Name:

Karin Johnson

Email:

karinj@state.mt.us

Date:

Friday August 06, 1999 17:39:05 GMT

Comments:

I am a birth mother who has married the birth father, we now have three children, ages 14, 11 and 9. I would like to see information and research on the impact of subsequent children kept. Mine have gone through some "stuff" after learning of their older relinquished brother. What impact does this have on adoptees too?


Name:

Cathy

Email:

ITSaddictn@aol.com

Date:

Tuesday August 03, 1999 04:34:32 GMT

Comments:

F/adoptee Iso birthmom/family born Easton,MD in Easton Mem.
Hospital. Mom and fostermom both from Denton,MD.Mom had 2 sisters which were seperated from her after there mother died(alcoholism/diabetes)there father gave them up to fostercare being a high ranking military officer at the time of his wifes death.I believe they were all origanially from The New England States,before moving to Maryland.My mom had a son 2-5 yrs older than i. my father was of irish decent and a construction worker. He was married at the time to another woman and had children with her. I dont know if he was even told of my birth. Need med. info badley.


Name:

Patty Steinberger

Email:

pattysteinberger@yahoo.com

Date:

Thursday July 15, 1999 02:49:10 GMT

Comments:

I had a baby girl 03/15/92 in Phoenix, AZ at the St. Joseph's hosp. on McDowell Rd. Because this child will be 18 years old soon, I am trying to leave a trail easily traced incase she tries to locate her birth parents.


Name:

Heather Lowe

Email:

hslowe@yahoo.com

Date:

Tuesday June 15, 1999 17:45:44 GMT

Comments:

Thank you for making your thesis available on the web. It's such
an important, but neglected, area of study. I hope that someone
will undertake similar work on the effects of relinquishment
on us Open Adoption birthmoms


Name:

jacke

Email:

Jac5ke@aol.com

Date:

Saturday June 12, 1999 17:38:03 GMT

Comments:

i think if someone really wants to help children, they should 'adopt' the young mother AND her baby and put them on the road to a successful life TOGETHER. early childhood devel, counseling for the young mother, job skills in an area of interest and aptitude to promote single parenting.


Name:

Marilyn Grubb

Email:

grubb2@telusplanet.net

Date:

Saturday June 05, 1999 20:35:45 GMT

Comments:

Perfect!

My reunion stories at: http://www.telusplanet.net/public/grubb2/index.htm


Name:

s.h.nebel

Email:

gsnebel@aol.com

Date:

Friday May 21, 1999 01:00:14 GMT

Comments:

Dear Judy, have been reading your survey and think it's wonderful. However, all of your comments are from b/mothers from homes with parents. I happen to be from a "dysfunctional" home I spent several years in foster care,
what about us a B/mothers? I was recently reuited with my son, he is 38, he looked for me. (Nov. 97) I gave up my son at age 18 because he deserved a better life!


Name:

Gretchen Long

Email:

Long@vcadmin.colorado.edu

Date:

Tuesday May 18, 1999 14:23:19 GMT

Comments:

Judy thank you so much for your hard work, your commitment, and this thesis. You have expressed the birthmom sentiment eloquently. I am proud to have contributed a small piece towards your research. You have made great strides in educating people to the terrible pain so many of us have suffered. Thank you... thank you.
Gretchen Long
Still in search of Renee 1/26/70


Name:

kimberly vallade (kinkle)

Email:

kvallade@hotmail.com

Date:

Friday May 14, 1999 14:57:29 GMT

Comments:

my brother was given up for adoption around 1973 0r 74 because of birth defects that my parents could no longer care for he was 4 and i was 5 at the time my life long dream is to find the brother i once played and fought with he would now be 30 and hope he still calls himself Little Gary


Name:

Christine Dato

Email:

chrisdato@aol.com

Date:

Thursday May 06, 1999 22:57:20 GMT

Comments:

Judy,
You have made such a difference! Having the privelege of being your "little" sister, I have always looked up to you and this thesis is one more reason why I admire, respect and love you so very much! You are truly brilliant! I was too young to be there for you back in 1967, but know that I feel your happiness now and will always be there for you today and forever! lots of love, Chris


Name:

Carmen Arjona

Email:

carjona@marketfacts.com

Date:

Thursday May 06, 1999 18:37:33 GMT

Comments:

Judy, I don't know what it's like for a birthmother to relinquish her child. I can only imagine the pain and it doesn't even come close to the reality it must be.
I do want to say that my heart goes out to you and all birthmothers out there who did relinquish their child. Everyone who signed this book is right, this information needs to come out so that people can get help for what has happened.
I'm sorry this happened to you, and happy that you found your child. It must have been a great feeling for you. Congratulations.
If there is anything at all that I can do to help you, whatever it is, please let me know. I'd be happy and honored that I can help you.

Lots and lots of love,

Carmen Arjona.


Name:

Susan O'Brien Rodgers, MA ( Goddard '95)

Email:

susanrdgrs@aol.com

Date:

Tuesday May 04, 1999 17:53:42 GMT

Comments:

As an adoptee & author of 'Mending Fences; Burning Bridges" alos the story of relinquishment & birthmothers my Master's thesis, I can't wait to sit down with your project...I wish you peace & recovery. Would love to stay in touch!
Sue


Name:

Dianne Vock

Email:

vogo@together.net

Date:

Tuesday May 04, 1999 03:36:08 GMT

Comments:

Dear Judy: Your work will impact and inspire everyone who reads it...(perhaps even the muses)! I was particularly moved by your own personal story in the postscript and by the responses of others in the guest book. By sharing this study with the world...the experiences, the pain, you have opened the door for other birthmothers to heal. Your courage and compassion are exceptional... qualities which accompany your brilliance, wisdom and unselfish quest for the betterment of all of humanity. I am deeply grateful to be your friend. My love always, Dianne


Name:

Kathy Lewis

Email:

lewikm@uleth.ca

Date:

Monday May 03, 1999 23:24:59 GMT

Comments:

Hi Judy;
I look forward to reading your study. I am presently completing a study which looks at the birth mother experience from a phenomenological perspective.
Kathy Lewis


Name:

Gail Karcher

Email:

Gkteach@aol.com

Date:

Monday May 03, 1999 19:10:09 GMT

Comments:

Looking forward to reading your thesis..I am VERY thankful that someone has finally done this for a project. It is important for birthmothers to realize they are not alone.

The trauma of the situation has impacted my entire adult life. Thank you again..


Name:

Elisa M. Barton

Email:

mailto:ElisaMB@aol.com%20or%20Menocal@aol.com

Date:

Friday April 30, 1999 16:59:30 GMT

Comments:

Judy, unfortunately, my stupid server was not able to open up most of your writing. I would love to read it. Elisa M. Barton CONFESSIONS OF A LOST MOTHER by ElisaMB@aol.com Available at Barnes & Noble Bookstores; through Tapestry Books 1-800-765-2367; Amazon.com http://www.silcom.com/~manatee/barton_lost.html


Name:

Jean Dulong

Email:

JDulong@aol.com

Date:

Friday April 30, 1999 14:48:57 GMT

Comments:

This is a VERY important piece of work. I think all counselors who work with affected birthmothers should read it. I would also like to see a study of the effect of relinquishment on the maternal birth grandmother.


Name:

Pam Powless

Email:

pampowless@eudoramail.com

Date:

Thursday April 29, 1999 19:38:54 GMT

Comments:

Thank you so much for validating the experiences of so many of us! I am a birthmother who relinquished in 1967, and searched and found. Your work should be required reading for all therapists and social workers!
Also, thank you for making your thesis public online for the world to understand our situations.


Name:

Rosie Haught

Email:

JA-DAN@webtv.net

Date:

Thursday April 29, 1999 15:39:59 GMT

Comments:

I cried the whole time I read your postscript. I remembered my feeligs. Feelings that I am remembering more and more. I have memories now, that I did not have for so many years. Your thoughts, words, research, should be made available to all who need to be educated about this. Thank you!


Name:

Linda

Email:

lydlmama1@aol.com

Date:

Wednesday April 28, 1999 21:35:12 GMT

Comments:

I'm a birthmom of 1968. I received no information on how to keep my child, even though I repeatedly begged to be allowed to keep him. I received no options. I also did not get any requests for his placement. Those that I asked for were ignored. I never received any help adjusting to the relinquishment nor the effects that this extremely traumatic experience would have on my life and that of my subsequent family. I feel the same pain today as I did over 31 years ago. In fact, after finding my son, it intesified. I have suffered severe depression over the years. I was never allowed to mention *IT*. Looking back I find that I am angry at my parents, at the social workers and at the doctors who insisted I give away my own flesh and blood. I may never get over this anger..in fact I know I won't.


Name:

Teri Mennie

Email:

DaBab1@aol.com

Date:

Wednesday April 28, 1999 17:46:09 GMT

Comments:

Well done, I relinquesed in 64 and most of this still applies to me. Unnessecary adoption, forced by my mother.


Name:

Beth Culler

Email:

beth.culler@snet.net

Date:

Wednesday April 28, 1999 00:24:22 GMT

Comments:

Dear Judy, I am really moved by how much your work has touched others. It has been an honor to be your advisor through this process. Beth


Name:

Kathleen Shipley

Email:

irish21450@aol.com

Date:

Wednesday April 28, 1999 00:15:15 GMT

Comments:

I am very proud to have been a part of this research - You have validated what I have tried to tell my family and friends about the experience. I have bookmarked this page and will come back often. Thank you so much for doing this !!!!!


Name:

Kay

Email:

russlc@access.webcombo.net

Date:

Tuesday April 27, 1999 05:15:32 GMT

Comments:

I almost forgot. Please visit my adoption web site at:
<A HREF="http://www.geocities.com/Wellesley/9950/">Ghostdancer's Anti-adoption Pages</A>


Name:

Kay

Email:

russlc@access.webcombo.net

Date:

Tuesday April 27, 1999 05:12:20 GMT

Comments:

I've only just scanned it. It sounds wonderful -- to be heard finally. I just saw my therapist today, and she said that I helped her understand adoption from a mother's point of view. She now has 3 more mothers traumatized by adoption in therapy, and she says that working with me has helped her work with them better. It's extremely important that society learn what adoption does to the mothers of children lost to adoption! Thank you so much Judy.


Name:

Judi Batchelor

Email:

JBatch1945@aol.com

Date:

Monday April 26, 1999 14:33:12 GMT

Comments:

If I had only known that what I was experiencing after surrendering was not abnormal then I might not have thought I was crazy for 29 years. At least I'm not going to die without knowing the sound of my son's voice or what he looked like. This little bit gives me some degree of peace, but it was not enough. I wish all my sister birthmothers this peace.
Judi, Andy's mom


Name:

Lila Swords

Email:

lswords@ibm.net

Date:

Sunday April 25, 1999 22:13:04 GMT

Comments:

I love the site and was very interested in the results of the survey.


Name:

Rosalind Maya Lama

Email:

rmlama1@juno.com

Date:

Sunday April 25, 1999 21:47:44 GMT

Comments:

Judy,

Well done! I am working on a different aspect of the issue and have had great difficulty getting responses. A letter was published
and have had great difficulty getting responses to a letter
published in the CUB Communicator last May and circulated on
the web. Please advise on how to contact the group of
people I am searching for. Any lists would be appreciated.
Unfortunately, the particular situation I am looking into
frequently resulted in deaths. It may be that survivors are
few or extremely marginalized.I will forward the CUB letter
if you send a direct e-mail address.

Thanks.
Rosalind Maya Lama
(831)462 3379
765 Brommer St.
Santa Cruz, CA 95062


Name:

Carol Kisnics

Email:

carol@cnwl.igs.net

Date:

Sunday April 25, 1999 21:14:02 GMT

Comments:

Your site is very educational and well put together. I also
am a birthmother and reunited 3 years with my son. I can identify with so much of what you have written. Well written
Carol


Name:

Joy Larkin Pantelis

Email:

Joylark@prodigy.com

Date:

Sunday April 25, 1999 21:08:29 GMT

Comments:

Thank you for allowing me to participate in your birthmother study. I have printed your paper so I can have a hardcopy to read/reread/share.
I delivered/surrendered my son when I was 17 years old in 1965. I searched for him when he was 24 years old and have been reunited with him since 1990.
Thanks for bringing our experiences out of the closet and to the attention of others. Hugs, Joy


Name:

Beth Houlihan

Email:

BethRN3CAL@AOL.com

Date:

Sunday April 25, 1999 20:06:36 GMT

Comments:

Dear Judy,
Oh, my gosh!! This is wonderful!! Thank you for your work!! Even though I wasn't part of your study, I feel as though I could have been. The information fits so well. My favorite part is your "Postscript". Again, thank you.
Beth Houlihan


Name:

ELAINE MUNRO

Email:

dgiroux@rougenet.qc.ca

Date:

Sunday April 25, 1999 19:28:03 GMT

Comments:

I to am a birthmom still looking for my son who will
be 30 this year. He has been found but at this time as I
was told was not ready to make the step. That's is OK, but
I hope one day we do meet because I was fortunate to get
a picture of my baby when he was two days old so even tho'
I did not get to hold him he is still in my heart and my
"flesh and blood."


Name:

Barbara Faith Cuyler

Email:

faithfromfl@webtv.net

Date:

Sunday April 25, 1999 16:43:38 GMT

Comments:

Very good. I am a birth mother who gave up her baby girl in 1966. I have been searching for her for years. I am tormented by the fact that she's not with me. I was forced to give her up. Not a day goes by that I don't think of her. Your work on this subject was most interesting. It was very good!


Name:

Bonnie

Email:

darby@gate-way.net

Date:

Sunday April 25, 1999 16:24:48 GMT

Comments:

I am an adoptee searching for bfamily. I am just starting to realize what all of the bmoms went through. Thanks for doing the survey...it is very informative. Bonnie Proud Canadopt member #1269


Name:

theresa, list-owner of floridatriad@onelist.com

Email:

lbuldog@webtv.net

Date:

Sunday April 25, 1999 13:53:34 GMT

Comments:

I THINK THIS WS VERY GOOD, YOU ASKED GREAT QUESTIONS, MAYBE IT WILL HELP OTHERS..


Name:

Lia Rodriguez

Email:

Psaffire@aol.com

Date:

Sunday April 25, 1999 13:45:15 GMT

Comments:

It is a fascinating study and piece to write about. I have seen so little on the subject of birthmothers relinquishing their babies and its affects on our lives. What can it be used for? How many professional people will look at it? I now see there is much more of us out there than I could ever imagine and for a long time I thought I was one in a million this happened to. I hope someday I will see changes that will benefit birthmothers that find themselves in this situation although times have changed since. If only we had more choices back then......


Name:

Suzanne Burns

Email:

samsams@attcanada.net

Date:

Sunday April 25, 1999 10:50:38 GMT

Comments:

I as ,a B-mom (member of the Sunflowers) have taken part in this
survey and very pleased with the results and your accomplishments.
Congratulations on your degree and keep up your excellent work
for B-mom's around the world.


Name:

Susan

Email:

Angel5596@aol.com

Date:

Sunday April 25, 1999 02:30:18 GMT

Comments:

Fabulous paper. I am a reunited bmom. My daughter was born on 6/2/72 and back in my arms 12/28/96. My life has begun to heal again....


Name:

Peggy

Email:

Degal@dol.net

Date:

Sunday April 25, 1999 01:54:36 GMT

Comments:

I participated in your study. My son was born in 1965..
I found him when he was 31-
I would have searched for him until the day I died..I had to
know how he was. I grieved for him for 31 years.
and now I have to heal.
Bless you for doing this..
Hugs,
Peggy


Name:

Jean M . Olsommer

Email:

queeny@voicenet.com

Date:

Sunday April 25, 1999 01:21:20 GMT

Comments:

I one of the moms in the story. I have given up my daughter
in 1968.
come in and sigh my guest book
www.angelfire.com/pa/queenjean/indexhtml


Name:

vivien ann nicoll

Email:

vnicoll@csi.com

Date:

Sunday April 25, 1999 00:33:41 GMT

Comments:

It was very helpful.


Name:

Vicki Miller aka Vicki M

Email:

miller.v@worldnet.att.net

Date:

Sunday April 25, 1999 00:27:17 GMT

Comments:

Dear Judy , Your work is wonderful. Is there away I could get a copy of this. I would pay for it and the postage. Vicki M


Name:

Norma Samsel

Email:

nsamsel@usit.net

Date:

Saturday April 24, 1999 22:38:40 GMT

Comments:

Judy ... I found your writing mesmerizing. I wanted to be a part of your survey, but my relinquishment occurred in 1962. Your thesis should be required reading for all persons who offer counseling to birthmothers. We have been "in the shadows" way too long. I have been reunited with my birthson since 1983...Only another birthmother KNOWS the trauma, anguish and pain that we have all endured! Thanks for making this available on your webpage.


Name:

Emma Jane Crowley

Email:

Robinsnest@webtv.net

Date:

Saturday April 24, 1999 21:04:43 GMT

Comments:

I find this information on your thesis very true.
I have suffered all my life with depression, anxiety and phobias since being forced by my parents to give up my son for adoption at age 17yrs. (July 22, 1968)
The internet has opened up a line of communication for me to other birthmothers! Open Adoption Records is the only answer to our problems...to let us find our children and they find us. Only then can true healing begin. Having been seeing a psychiatrist since I was 24yrs and am now 48yrs I still suffer greatly and the pain continues to grow like cancer in my soul....................


Name:

Terri Leber

Email:

momfeb1871@aol.com

Date:

Saturday April 24, 1999 20:11:40 GMT

Comments:

Judy thank you for the great work you have done and for sharing it with the world. We will all continue to work hard to make sure the true story of what happened to birthmothers is told by birthmothers. Your great thesis goes a long way towards dispelling the myths perpetuated by the likes of the NCFA and agencies.

Terri Leber
President National Council of Birthmothers
http://www.geocities.com/CapitolHill/Congress/5558/


Name:

Victoria Lawson

Email:

zmama53@earthlink.net

Date:

Saturday April 24, 1999 19:52:15 GMT

Comments:

Judy, I read every word - absolutely amazing.
Would that more people could understand what we have been
(and continue to go) through.
Vicki


Name:

Pamela K Roberts (Sarai M.Kendall)

Email:

rnmail@webtv.net

Date:

Saturday April 24, 1999 19:38:13 GMT

Comments:

I wish --that more people like you could get involved that truely understand our pain. For me --I don't know if it will ever end ,even if I find. Thank -you for a true portrait of birthmothers


Name:

Pamela Weber-Hamlin

Email:

L8dflyer@aol.com

Date:

Saturday April 24, 1999 19:04:29 GMT

Comments:

Happy to have been part of this excellent work!